Honestly? Yes. It's your call to make but I think, at minimum, send a card or an email if you can't deal with the interaction of a phone call. Especially if you do call the other fathers in the family.
I was thinking of sending an e-mail. Because I can't call. If I call, the conversation has the potential to spiral out of control.
Mom is sending me two house elf visits and I am about to go nom me some cheese enchiladas because that's what I am craving like whoa.
Mmm, enchiladas. That's a good birthday.
My dad wants me to call him at work so my mom won't be there to yell at me. They're playing Crazy Cop, Reasonable Cop again. But I still don't want to talk right now. Not at work. And I'm busy tonight. And I'm visiting friends this weekend and want to have fun and get away from everything.
This is the same thing that always happens, though. I send an e-mail, my mom flips out, my dad tries to smooth things over. Until the process starts over again. I don't know if it will make things worse not to play along like I've always done.
P-C, can you call and wish happy fathers day when you know they'll be out of the house, and leave a message? Phone tag has an illustrious history for a reason!
What. Cass. Said. I would definitely call him. They're the ones who are defining this as you not caring about the family. You don't have to buy into that and you can show them it's not so. You DO care, you just don't want to do this one thing in the way they want you to. I feel for your dad--he has to live with your mom's crazy all the time, and it is clear that they both love you, even if their cultural expectations are wack.
P-C, can you call and wish happy fathers day when you know they'll be out of the house, and leave a message? Phone tag has an illustrious history for a reason!
Yeah, I should be able to get my sister to tell me when they're not home.
They're the ones who are defining this as you not caring about the family. You don't have to buy into that and you can show them it's not so. You DO care, you just don't want to do this one thing in the way they want you to.
Right. Like sj said, it would just be ammunition.
Happy Birthday Cass!
P-C All the strength~ma in the world.
I am here, lurkish, but reading and nodding and sending hugs and things. I will be here more sometime soon and tell you about where i was.
In the meantime, a plea:
Chicagoistas - a friend has moved to your fair town for employment, but alas, cannot find a good $1k or under/month rental that is fair to cats and also near Rosemont. Person in question is Quite Something and could in fact be a buffista. I would like to pass some good housing~ma this person's way - if there is any advice, please let me know.
as an update on my friend undergoing chemo, she is in her third week, fighting very hard.
And I am nomming chocolate, because my job requires that. Chocolate, or yelling.
How near to Rosemont does person need to be? My apartment complex has great 1BRs very cat friendly in Wheeling, about 30 minutes north of Rosemont.
ETA: price is around $850.
Happy Birthday to Cass!
And belated birthday wishes to askye!
I'm skippy girl again. I drive to Otter Lake this weekend. Moving the house, moving the office, and a bunch of other stuff going on all at once.
I missed the chance to say bye to DH. He left this afternoon for a basketball tournament. He'll get back on Sunday and I'll be on the road. Driving to NY with my cousin because she needs her car up there and I don't. Her car isn't that big so the boys are flying up.
So, DH left today, I leave Saturday, he gets back Sunday, my sons fly up on Wednesday and I pick them up in Syracuse, DH flies to Boston on Friday and I pick him up and drive to Providence for the F2F. Then Bobby and DH fly back to FL on the 7th. Brendon is going to spend the summer with me.
Amy! Are you still in NY? I would be more than happy to swing by and pick you up on my way to the F2F. (I know you were talking moving this summer, but with all my skippiness I don't know if that is/was happening.)
I'm enjoying a glass of sangria with white cherries and loving the first season of Avatar: The Last Airbender. P-C was right again.
