Happy birthday Cass!
Atherton: Half the men in this room wish you were on their arm, tonight. Inara: Only half. I must be losing my indefinable allure.
'Shindig'
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Nora Deirdre - Jun 17, 2010 1:37:43 pm PDT #22978 of 30000
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
Laga - Jun 17, 2010 1:38:06 pm PDT #22979 of 30000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
at minimum, send a card or an email
I was thinking gift basket.
Polter-Cow - Jun 17, 2010 1:38:40 pm PDT #22980 of 30000
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!
Honestly? Yes. It's your call to make but I think, at minimum, send a card or an email if you can't deal with the interaction of a phone call. Especially if you do call the other fathers in the family.
I was thinking of sending an e-mail. Because I can't call. If I call, the conversation has the potential to spiral out of control.
Mom is sending me two house elf visits and I am about to go nom me some cheese enchiladas because that's what I am craving like whoa.
Mmm, enchiladas. That's a good birthday.
Polter-Cow - Jun 17, 2010 1:55:18 pm PDT #22981 of 30000
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!
My dad wants me to call him at work so my mom won't be there to yell at me. They're playing Crazy Cop, Reasonable Cop again. But I still don't want to talk right now. Not at work. And I'm busy tonight. And I'm visiting friends this weekend and want to have fun and get away from everything.
This is the same thing that always happens, though. I send an e-mail, my mom flips out, my dad tries to smooth things over. Until the process starts over again. I don't know if it will make things worse not to play along like I've always done.
meara - Jun 17, 2010 2:03:13 pm PDT #22982 of 30000
P-C, can you call and wish happy fathers day when you know they'll be out of the house, and leave a message? Phone tag has an illustrious history for a reason!
Scrappy - Jun 17, 2010 2:03:53 pm PDT #22983 of 30000
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
What. Cass. Said. I would definitely call him. They're the ones who are defining this as you not caring about the family. You don't have to buy into that and you can show them it's not so. You DO care, you just don't want to do this one thing in the way they want you to. I feel for your dad--he has to live with your mom's crazy all the time, and it is clear that they both love you, even if their cultural expectations are wack.
Polter-Cow - Jun 17, 2010 2:11:41 pm PDT #22984 of 30000
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!
P-C, can you call and wish happy fathers day when you know they'll be out of the house, and leave a message? Phone tag has an illustrious history for a reason!
Yeah, I should be able to get my sister to tell me when they're not home.
They're the ones who are defining this as you not caring about the family. You don't have to buy into that and you can show them it's not so. You DO care, you just don't want to do this one thing in the way they want you to.
Right. Like sj said, it would just be ammunition.
askye - Jun 17, 2010 2:18:10 pm PDT #22985 of 30000
Thrive to spite them
Happy Birthday Cass!
hippocampus - Jun 17, 2010 3:19:18 pm PDT #22986 of 30000
not your mom's socks.
Happy Birthday Cass!
P-C All the strength~ma in the world.
I am here, lurkish, but reading and nodding and sending hugs and things. I will be here more sometime soon and tell you about where i was.
In the meantime, a plea:
Chicagoistas - a friend has moved to your fair town for employment, but alas, cannot find a good $1k or under/month rental that is fair to cats and also near Rosemont. Person in question is Quite Something and could in fact be a buffista. I would like to pass some good housing~ma this person's way - if there is any advice, please let me know.
as an update on my friend undergoing chemo, she is in her third week, fighting very hard.
And I am nomming chocolate, because my job requires that. Chocolate, or yelling.
Kathy A - Jun 17, 2010 3:20:54 pm PDT #22987 of 30000
We're very stretchy. - Connie Neil
How near to Rosemont does person need to be? My apartment complex has great 1BRs very cat friendly in Wheeling, about 30 minutes north of Rosemont.
ETA: price is around $850.