I am generally anti phone breakup, but given what I know of the situation, it might be the best thing.
You know, with the exception of one deadly and unpredictable midget, this girl is the smallest cargo I've ever had to transport. Yet by far the most troublesome. Does that seem right to you?
Early ,'Objects In Space'
Spike's Bitches 45: That sure as hell wasn't in the brochure.
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Vortex - Dec 02, 2009 10:06:14 am PST #2186 of 30000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
javachik - Dec 02, 2009 10:07:02 am PST #2187 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.
I dated someone for awhile where the chemistry was so strong that I couldn't break up in person - every time I tried, we ended up in bed.
Finally had to end it the safe way, with a phone call.
Vortex - Dec 02, 2009 10:08:03 am PST #2188 of 30000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
Pharma-bitches, I just noticed that one of my generic aleve has a chip out of it. Is it safe to take or should I just toss it? I know that sometimes you're not supposed to take broken pills, so thought I'd ask.
Steph L. - Dec 02, 2009 10:12:41 am PST #2189 of 30000
I look more rad than Lutheranism
Pharma-bitches, I just noticed that one of my generic aleve has a chip out of it. Is it safe to take or should I just toss it?
It's safe. Unless it's noticeably discolored, smelly, and/or disintegrating (which is different than having a chip out of it), you're fine.
t edit I really want a business card that says "Pharma-Bitch."
smonster - Dec 02, 2009 10:16:01 am PST #2190 of 30000
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
What were the natures of those failures? It would depend on that for me.
1) Mutual breakup -> FWB -> dating
2) I try to break up, he gets angry that I haven't been communicating my issues so we can work on things, I accede.
3) See #2
4) Get pep talk from Vortex, walk into apartment to find a new picture of self on mantel and special care taken with dinner (including candles), I wuss out and don't bring it up.
I totally suck at conflict and don't think on my feet well in arguments, plus I can pretty much always see the other point of view.
Current plan:
- I've written a brief letter that I can hand to him and walk away, if I feel myself weakening.
- A friend is going to drive over with me so I have a deadline and nearby support/accountability.
- I will institute a 72-hr period of radio silence
- I will spend the day with friends for support, distraction, and help enforcing the radio silence.
I'm taking the poll b/c I just found out that a friend in a somewhat similar situation broke up w/ her BF recently via phone and wondered what the current feeling was on that practice.
Calli - Dec 02, 2009 10:16:54 am PST #2191 of 30000
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
I really want a business card that says "Pharma-Bitch."
As long as they don't misprint it "Pharma's-Bitch," which just makes you an extra on The Wire.
Vortex - Dec 02, 2009 10:20:11 am PST #2192 of 30000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
I like the plan. And you know that I'm here for you, day or night.
Calli - Dec 02, 2009 10:25:34 am PST #2193 of 30000
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
Sorry, smonster. I have no idea on breakup etiquette, as I haven't had to use it in over a decade. But if you need company afterward, just let me know.
Zenkitty - Dec 02, 2009 10:25:57 am PST #2194 of 30000
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
Sounds like it's what you need to do, smonster. Supportive friends and 72-hour silence are good ideas.
§ ita § - Dec 02, 2009 10:32:22 am PST #2195 of 30000
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
If you actually talk on the phone, instead of break and run, then I think it's doing what you have to.