I dated someone for awhile where the chemistry was so strong that I couldn't break up in person - every time I tried, we ended up in bed.
Finally had to end it the safe way, with a phone call.
We're taking a moment ... and we're done.
Oz ,'Chosen'
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javachik - Dec 02, 2009 10:07:02 am PST #2187 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.
Vortex - Dec 02, 2009 10:08:03 am PST #2188 of 30000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
Pharma-bitches, I just noticed that one of my generic aleve has a chip out of it. Is it safe to take or should I just toss it? I know that sometimes you're not supposed to take broken pills, so thought I'd ask.
Steph L. - Dec 02, 2009 10:12:41 am PST #2189 of 30000
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated
Pharma-bitches, I just noticed that one of my generic aleve has a chip out of it. Is it safe to take or should I just toss it?
It's safe. Unless it's noticeably discolored, smelly, and/or disintegrating (which is different than having a chip out of it), you're fine.
t edit I really want a business card that says "Pharma-Bitch."
smonster - Dec 02, 2009 10:16:01 am PST #2190 of 30000
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
What were the natures of those failures? It would depend on that for me.
1) Mutual breakup -> FWB -> dating
2) I try to break up, he gets angry that I haven't been communicating my issues so we can work on things, I accede.
3) See #2
4) Get pep talk from Vortex, walk into apartment to find a new picture of self on mantel and special care taken with dinner (including candles), I wuss out and don't bring it up.
I totally suck at conflict and don't think on my feet well in arguments, plus I can pretty much always see the other point of view.
Current plan:
- I've written a brief letter that I can hand to him and walk away, if I feel myself weakening.
- A friend is going to drive over with me so I have a deadline and nearby support/accountability.
- I will institute a 72-hr period of radio silence
- I will spend the day with friends for support, distraction, and help enforcing the radio silence.
I'm taking the poll b/c I just found out that a friend in a somewhat similar situation broke up w/ her BF recently via phone and wondered what the current feeling was on that practice.
Calli - Dec 02, 2009 10:16:54 am PST #2191 of 30000
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
I really want a business card that says "Pharma-Bitch."
As long as they don't misprint it "Pharma's-Bitch," which just makes you an extra on The Wire.
Vortex - Dec 02, 2009 10:20:11 am PST #2192 of 30000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
I like the plan. And you know that I'm here for you, day or night.
Calli - Dec 02, 2009 10:25:34 am PST #2193 of 30000
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
Sorry, smonster. I have no idea on breakup etiquette, as I haven't had to use it in over a decade. But if you need company afterward, just let me know.
Zenkitty - Dec 02, 2009 10:25:57 am PST #2194 of 30000
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
Sounds like it's what you need to do, smonster. Supportive friends and 72-hour silence are good ideas.
§ ita § - Dec 02, 2009 10:32:22 am PST #2195 of 30000
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
If you actually talk on the phone, instead of break and run, then I think it's doing what you have to.
Cass - Dec 02, 2009 10:56:41 am PST #2196 of 30000
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
I really want a business card that says "Pharma-Bitch."
I totes want that tooooo.
smonster, I think that if you've tried before in person that doing this over the phone might be the way you need to go now. I am not always in favor of the phone breakup, but in this case, I can see where it might be the right thing. And I am a text away if you need any support or a shoulder.