I like the plan. And you know that I'm here for you, day or night.
And now my boy's in love. All hearts and flowers. But, doesn't it freak you out that she used to change your diapers? I mean, when you think about it, the first woman you boned is the closest thing you've ever had to a mother. Doing your mom and trying to kill your dad. Hm. There should be a play.
Angelus ,'Damage'
Spike's Bitches 45: That sure as hell wasn't in the brochure.
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Vortex - Dec 02, 2009 10:20:11 am PST #2192 of 30000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
Calli - Dec 02, 2009 10:25:34 am PST #2193 of 30000
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
Sorry, smonster. I have no idea on breakup etiquette, as I haven't had to use it in over a decade. But if you need company afterward, just let me know.
Zenkitty - Dec 02, 2009 10:25:57 am PST #2194 of 30000
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
Sounds like it's what you need to do, smonster. Supportive friends and 72-hour silence are good ideas.
§ ita § - Dec 02, 2009 10:32:22 am PST #2195 of 30000
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
If you actually talk on the phone, instead of break and run, then I think it's doing what you have to.
Cass - Dec 02, 2009 10:56:41 am PST #2196 of 30000
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
I really want a business card that says "Pharma-Bitch."
I totes want that tooooo.
smonster, I think that if you've tried before in person that doing this over the phone might be the way you need to go now. I am not always in favor of the phone breakup, but in this case, I can see where it might be the right thing. And I am a text away if you need any support or a shoulder.
brenda m - Dec 02, 2009 11:00:27 am PST #2197 of 30000
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
Over the phone for your reasons is very different than over the phone because you can't be bothered. Do what feels doable, hon.
Vortex - Dec 02, 2009 11:40:28 am PST #2198 of 30000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
Over the phone for your reasons is very different than over the phone because you can't be bothered.
yes, this.
smonster - Dec 02, 2009 11:46:32 am PST #2199 of 30000
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
Thanks for the feedback, all. Will ponder. The only thing about the phone breakup is that getting my stuff back may be an issue, but all I really care about is my pillow and two cds and they aren't urgent.
Seska (the Watcher-in-Training) - Dec 02, 2009 12:05:34 pm PST #2200 of 30000
"We're all stories, in the end. Just make it a good one, eh?"
smonster, that sounds like a crappy situation. I hope the plan goes OK. It sounds very sensible.
Seska, threaten with media and loss of a customer.
I've told them I'm leaving - it's made no difference. I'm going to complain to their 'customer relations' dept (the dark pit into which complaints disappear and nothing emerges) and cc in the disability 'support' people (who can only be reached by fax, apparently)
The trouble is that such service is perfectly standard in this country. Lots of outsourcing to places where they think my nearest branch is Cardiff, lots of computer-generated responses (the Little Britain sketch 'computer says no' is exactly right), etc. We've approached a rival bank about setting up an account, and they're happy to handle it, but wouldn't give me an overdraft. I think this is because I don't have an income. The fact that I've never failed to pay off my overdraft in the twelve years I've been with my current bank apparently means nothing. They're happy to give me a credit card, of course. Like that's clever financial management for the woman with bipolar disorder who's practically innumerate.
I know customer service isn't that much better anywhere else, but I can't believe how sucky it's got over here in the past five years or so. It was never this bad before.
IbetterN, my confirmation class was fab this evening. Philosophical and theological head-spin zone. Great stuff.
DavidS - Dec 02, 2009 12:06:59 pm PST #2201 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
Just be prepared, smonster. You may have your reasons, but anybody on the receiving end of being broken up with over the phone is going to feel very aggrieved.
I would be. I'd feel like anybody that had been intimate with me had a responsibility to stand in and tell it to me to my face. I would take that same responsibility.
It might be the right thing to do for you. But it's not really the right thing.
But I think your plan to hand him a letter and leave if you feel yourself weakening is better.