Quite frankly, after seeing him tonight, I think this is more that he is having a crisis of identity than it has anything to do with me. He just has the convenient excuse that he's been with me for the past six months, so clearly it must be me.
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vw bug - Dec 11, 2008 4:09:02 pm PST #4174 of 10000
Mostly lurking...
javachik - Dec 11, 2008 4:11:19 pm PST #4175 of 10000
Our wings are not tired.
I'm totally going against the grain here, and forgive me.
I was pretty close to my ex's sister and for years after we broke up, we exchanged gifts and it was really nice. We did this because we liked each other, not because of any ties to my ex-boyfriend. Sometimes we meet people in life and we like them and the way we met them just starts to not matter. You've known his family for 6 months. That's enough time for people to start caring for each other. You hand made gifts for them.
It's completely up to you, Val, but if you want to give his family their gifts, I think it's a lovely gesture. After all, THEY didn't break up with you! They might really care for you and wish the best for you and think Aaron is an ass for the way he treated you.
I met my ex's sister ONCE in person (she lived out of state) and yet my relationship with her flourished long after Woods and I broke up. Anyway, my two cents. Do what feels natural to you.
Laga - Dec 11, 2008 4:24:27 pm PST #4176 of 10000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
If they're not finished it feels weird to me, thinking of you finishing them. I'm not a crafter, so when I make a gift it's deeply personal. I agree with everyone above who said it's your decision to make.
edit: I whittled this down from a much longer post. I can't seem to articulate exactly what I'm feeling.
javachik - Dec 11, 2008 4:26:23 pm PST #4177 of 10000
Our wings are not tired.
I think maybe this is one of those scenarios where advice is useless. VW should only do what she feels like doing*. It doesn't have to be political or a symbol of dynamics or anything.
* which could be called advice. Heh.
javachik - Dec 11, 2008 4:27:36 pm PST #4178 of 10000
Our wings are not tired.
ETA: Never mind. Figured it out.
sj - Dec 11, 2008 4:28:48 pm PST #4179 of 10000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
But, didn't you know, the fact that I'm a considerate person is what he loves most about me.
It is head-explodey. It really, really is.
Grr.
javachik - Dec 11, 2008 4:31:06 pm PST #4180 of 10000
Our wings are not tired.
I sort of feel like we're forgetting that people ARE head-explodey. Especially people in relationships. We keep seeing snippets of the conversation that outrage or confuse us...but damn, couldn't any of you post snippets from any conversation you've ever had with anyone and...well...I best be getting off to Macy's before I keep rambling.
Humans aint perfect. We all screw up. All of the time. We all act like morons a lot of the time.
Or maybe it's only me who does.
JenP - Dec 11, 2008 4:35:50 pm PST #4181 of 10000
VW should only do what she feels like doing
Totally. I think everyone pretty much said that, too, just with some added "Grr." Which I mean to say completely kindly, by the way - I absolutely get what you're saying about some tangential relationships outlasting the main one.
Laga - Dec 11, 2008 4:37:36 pm PST #4182 of 10000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
Or maybe it's only me who does.
it's not only you. I can think of a moronic thing or two I've already done today.
sj - Dec 11, 2008 4:38:55 pm PST #4183 of 10000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
I sort of feel like we're forgetting that people ARE head-explodey. Especially people in relationships. We keep seeing snippets of the conversation that outrage or confuse us...but damn, couldn't any of you post snippets from any conversation you've ever had with anyone and...well...I best be getting off to Macy's before I keep rambling.
Logically, this makes perfect sense, but vw is my very good friend, so I'm just going to stick with grr. And of course vw should do whatever she is comfortable doing wrt the gifts.