I'm totally going against the grain here, and forgive me.
I was pretty close to my ex's sister and for years after we broke up, we exchanged gifts and it was really nice. We did this because we liked each other, not because of any ties to my ex-boyfriend. Sometimes we meet people in life and we like them and the way we met them just starts to not matter. You've known his family for 6 months. That's enough time for people to start caring for each other. You hand made gifts for them.
It's completely up to you, Val, but if you want to give his family their gifts, I think it's a lovely gesture. After all, THEY didn't break up with you! They might really care for you and wish the best for you and think Aaron is an ass for the way he treated you.
I met my ex's sister ONCE in person (she lived out of state) and yet my relationship with her flourished long after Woods and I broke up. Anyway, my two cents. Do what feels natural to you.
If they're not finished it feels weird to me, thinking of you finishing them. I'm not a crafter, so when I make a gift it's deeply personal. I agree with everyone above who said it's your decision to make.
edit: I whittled this down from a much longer post. I can't seem to articulate exactly what I'm feeling.
I think maybe this is one of those scenarios where advice is useless. VW should only do what she feels like doing*. It doesn't have to be political or a symbol of dynamics or anything.
* which could be called advice. Heh.
ETA: Never mind. Figured it out.
I sort of feel like we're forgetting that people ARE head-explodey. Especially people in relationships. We keep seeing snippets of the conversation that outrage or confuse us...but damn, couldn't any of you post snippets from any conversation you've ever had with anyone and...well...I best be getting off to Macy's before I keep rambling.
Humans aint perfect. We all screw up. All of the time. We all act like morons a lot of the time.
Or maybe it's only me who does.
VW should only do what she feels like doing
Totally. I think everyone pretty much said that, too, just with some added "Grr." Which I mean to say completely kindly, by the way - I absolutely get what you're saying about some tangential relationships outlasting the main one.
Or maybe it's only me who does.
it's not only you. I can think of a moronic thing or two I've already done today.
I sort of feel like we're forgetting that people ARE head-explodey. Especially people in relationships. We keep seeing snippets of the conversation that outrage or confuse us...but damn, couldn't any of you post snippets from any conversation you've ever had with anyone and...well...I best be getting off to Macy's before I keep rambling.
Logically, this makes perfect sense, but vw is my very good friend, so I'm just going to stick with grr. And of course vw should do whatever she is comfortable doing wrt the gifts.
Humans aint perfect. We all screw up. All of the time. We all act like morons a lot of the time.
Definitely. I admitted in my post that his behavior is behavior I have sometimes exhibited myself (the being kinda hypocritical thing). But it still is what it is, whether it's me doing it or someone else. No reason not to call it (in either case!) But it doesn't mean one can't have compassion for someone being a little whatever-it-is-they're-being, which vw clearly does, even if we're all a little more growly.
Again, am speaking just to clarify my thoughts - nothin' but love for ya'. For reals.
