It's true there's separated and then there's separated. But still.

Why don't you go out and risk take and come back and tell us how it went?

Turned out pretty well. I did take a risk, that's why I'm married again and have a baby. I was separated for five years before the divorce was final. Six weeks before JZ married me. So she took a chance too.

I'm not saying the monk was a shill... but that would be funny. "OK, go talk to that one, I'm about to drive her to the train."

Entirely possible. Entirely. And yet, no requests for money or even contact information. If I end up retiring to the monastery and it turns out to be a 20 year old scam I might find my peace tested.

I'm afraid I'm no help, because I'm still stuck on the sexy, 43, writer, teacher, latte-bringing, hours-chatting parts... and that sounds pretty damn tempting. Well, mostly I'm stuck on sexy and brings me (you) yummy things.

Like I said, no help.

ita, I can totally see you as a Buddhist monk. I think you might truly love it, in fact.

Not gonna give advice about separated neighbor, nooos I'm not.

I am going to give a very belated but heartfelt hug to tommyrot and wish all the health~ma I can muster to Senor Sock. May they find the cause and cure swiftly.

ION, we're in Houston. Whee, Houston.

Yeah, the neighbor does sound pretty tempting. Don't shut him out without further intelligence.

Okay, so just heard another amusing "Closed Captioning" announcement on BBCA - sadly, I've already forgotten the amusing wording of the message but it was more like a warning for adult content or something, "The following program contains British Accents. Please use closed captioning if . . . " and I can't recall the amusing ending. (It should have said something about more sensitive viewers or something, but it didn't.)

Like I said, no help.

You're helping my argument.

I don't see the point in being so risk averse in romance, if you are interested in romance. It is, by definition, a risk taking venture. You have to risk your heart to get love.

No guts, no glory.

Neighbor dating or not, this is HYSTERICAL [link]

I dated a neighbor who told me he was divorced when he was actually separated and trying to extort alimony from the wife that worked and raised his 3 kids.

He ended up being a lying cheat to me as well. No surprise.

However that was some fine sex for nearly a year. Since then, he has had the nerve to approach me a couple of times which just gave me the chance to get my freezing stare of distain on. Otherwise, mostly harmless.

it doesn't mean every risk is worth it. God, it's not like we said, Allyson, bar your door, never speak to men again, NEVER THINK ABOUT A RELATIONSHIP IT'S NOT WORTH IT!

He JUST moved in. was wearing a wedding band in the very recent past. She is just getting to know him.

I think not going to a movie is a good call.

But, let me go on record - Allyson, I think you should keep beig social with him at the apartment, get to know him better, find out what the what is with the past relationship. You know yourself better than we do and you should go for whatever the hell you feel up to and are comfortable with.

eta: for fuck's sake.