I'm afraid I'm no help, because I'm still stuck on the sexy, 43, writer, teacher, latte-bringing, hours-chatting parts... and that sounds pretty damn tempting. Well, mostly I'm stuck on sexy and brings me (you) yummy things.

Like I said, no help.

ita, I can totally see you as a Buddhist monk. I think you might truly love it, in fact.

Not gonna give advice about separated neighbor, nooos I'm not.

I am going to give a very belated but heartfelt hug to tommyrot and wish all the health~ma I can muster to Senor Sock. May they find the cause and cure swiftly.

ION, we're in Houston. Whee, Houston.

Yeah, the neighbor does sound pretty tempting. Don't shut him out without further intelligence.

Okay, so just heard another amusing "Closed Captioning" announcement on BBCA - sadly, I've already forgotten the amusing wording of the message but it was more like a warning for adult content or something, "The following program contains British Accents. Please use closed captioning if . . . " and I can't recall the amusing ending. (It should have said something about more sensitive viewers or something, but it didn't.)

Like I said, no help.

You're helping my argument.

I don't see the point in being so risk averse in romance, if you are interested in romance. It is, by definition, a risk taking venture. You have to risk your heart to get love.

No guts, no glory.

Neighbor dating or not, this is HYSTERICAL [link]

I dated a neighbor who told me he was divorced when he was actually separated and trying to extort alimony from the wife that worked and raised his 3 kids.

He ended up being a lying cheat to me as well. No surprise.

However that was some fine sex for nearly a year. Since then, he has had the nerve to approach me a couple of times which just gave me the chance to get my freezing stare of distain on. Otherwise, mostly harmless.

it doesn't mean every risk is worth it. God, it's not like we said, Allyson, bar your door, never speak to men again, NEVER THINK ABOUT A RELATIONSHIP IT'S NOT WORTH IT!

He JUST moved in. was wearing a wedding band in the very recent past. She is just getting to know him.

I think not going to a movie is a good call.

But, let me go on record - Allyson, I think you should keep beig social with him at the apartment, get to know him better, find out what the what is with the past relationship. You know yourself better than we do and you should go for whatever the hell you feel up to and are comfortable with.

eta: for fuck's sake.

I don't see the point in being so risk averse in romance, if you are interested in romance.

It's all in how you rate the risk, isn't it? Or would you risk anything for romance? It's perfectly possible there are things Allyson thinks are within reason to risk that you don't. Or that she's just not as wacky as you are.

If you think it's a bad thing, Allyson, don't do it. Of course, I'm the reigning queen of compartmentalisation, but still. Do what's hard in order to avoid doing what you think is good. If you can compartmentalise without pain, keep hanging out with him. But stay attentive.

Question about separation: Why does it take so long? I mean, it doesn't have to, but why do you encounter people who are definitely never going to reconcile but who have been separated for years without pulling the trigger?

Watching the final episode of Hustle (channel changing issue meant I didn't have the Japanese guy one). Dude. Ferengi. And Jesse, from what I skimmed of your whitefont I agree with your first objection.

Last season were they such do gooders? Are they perhaps amping that up this season to distract you from the dubious morality of their actions?

I'm currently planning a trip to Belize. I'm not planning to take one, I'm just planning one. Since I can't run for a monastery right now, I need some sort of soothing activity.

This is how I get when I can't do krav. I can teach krav, but the last time I went balls to the wall teaching I ended up in the ER. Sure, I was going to the ER anyway and decided what the hell, but still--I wouldn't have gone balls to the wall if I hadn't known IV painkillers were already inevitable.

I like going balls to the wall, dammit. I don't want to have to plan like that.

I mean, it doesn't have to, but why do you encounter people who are definitely never going to reconcile but who have been separated for years without pulling the trigger?

Power and the fear of lack there of.

eta: for fuck's sake.

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