How polite is it of her to mis-state my post? I don't have a right to be outraged about that?

She didn't lie. She was mistaken--although I have to admit I got the same impression she did. So you say, something like, "I guess you misunderstood me. What I meant tosay was...."

Well, since everyone here can read your post and mine, getting outraged is an overreaction. If I lied, then point that out. Don't belittle and accuse me of willfully trying to hurt you.

The panties in a bunch comment is uncivil and disparaging. It's meant to piss me off and it's exactly what we are politely asking you to stop. As is calling me a liar if you think I'm wrong.

It does seem that the right to be offended is limited to long time members. You can be offended because I mention that Buffy's audience is small, but I can't be offended because you twist my words into somehow making that an insult.

Forget it. Don't try and explain. I'll just go back to lurking. Never should have delurked in the first place.

How polite is it of her to mis-state my post? I don't have a right to be outraged about that?

Shawn wasn't lying, she misunderstood your post, though, like Scrappy, I read it the same way Shawn read it.

You can be outraged without being condescending.

I don't think you understand the social structure, here, and I am not sure how to explain it to you. You're like the proverbial bull in the china shop.

Just one more suggestion for the admin warning thing -- following on from the idea of putting admin warnings into red, bold font or whatever, how about having a graphic for official warnings.

I think it would make a suitably strong impact, as there are relatively few graphics around here.

We could do it two ways: stompies are allowed to add graphics and/or add a particular shortcut for the warning that only stompies know, and is incredibly unlikely to be created by accident.

Or you could even say "I'm confused, I didn't mean to say that at all. What I meant was [...]." It's generally (as I advise my little sisters, who, btw, just have not gotten this yet) best, in confrontations, to be able to make the other party feel slightly foolish while you lean back in righteous superiority; rather than saying something like (as an *extreme* example) "I don't think so, babydoll! You've got to read my post again, I never said anything like that. What are you, blind?" because then everybody will think you're just an asshole.

Or, what my sisters do, which is hit your sister after she went into your room without permission. Keep yourself in the injured, sympathetic party, guys! Don't allow Mom to come in and see the other girl wailing on the floor, no one will care that she touched your stuff without asking first!

I digress.

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I can't be offended because you twist my words into somehow making that an insult.

Nobody's twisting your words. They're right there, and they're insulting. You could have disagreed with what Shawn said without being rude. We do it all the time.

Just one more suggestion for the admin warning thing -- following on from the idea of putting admin warnings into red, bold font or whatever, how about having a graphic for official warnings.

That seems clever to me, John.

You CAN be offended, Schmoker. It's just you need to think about how you deal with being offended (as we all do). Rob got upset at you, and several posters asked him to express his feelings in a more polite way (and he apologized, as he should have). If you're upset at Shawn say, well, "That upset me. I feel as if you are twisting my words and I feel attacked." If you can't read the difference in tone between that and "don't get your panties in a bunch" then you are a lot less intelligent than you seem to be. And that I don't believe.