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P-C, re my above to Teppy, I didn't mean to speak around you there, and am not even sure what I'm remembering is correct. Basically, whenever this topic comes up, my brain remembers: This is an impossible situation and you're never going to untangle it, Cindy, and that's that.

hugs P-C

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It is tempting to yell 'grow a spine' , but living in th bay area I've seen families where the dynamic is way more complicated than I understand. some of it is cultural. and some of it is that i grew up in a smart family with no rebels and nondramtic personalities. Of course, I was 5 or 6 when I told my dad that he would have nothing to do with picking out the person I was going to marry.

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I seem to recall from past conversations that it's not just their problem....P-C does not want that, and isn't averse to doing things their way

All I meant was that, by assuming that any woman that P-C might be in proximity to is a girlfriend -- he hasn't done anything to make them think that. That makes it not his problem. If he was lying about his hot non-Gujarati girlfriend, that would be his problem.

But it seems like his family's assumptions that every woman he spends time with is a girlfriend doesn't do him any favors. It just makes him edgy and guilty about every friendship he might have with a woman. It shouldn't have to be that way.

I totally get that it's complex, and that I can't really understand entirely it b/c it *is* a very specific cultural issue.

But, since I'm talking about assumptions, P-C, I'm sorry if I'm making assumptions here that are (1) incorrect, (2) rude, (3) none of my business, and/or (4) all of the above. That's not my intention.

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Adding to the fun is that a cousin of mine in India eloped with a lower-caste woman and was disowned for about a year, so my parents are scared of more scandal, and of course the fact that I'm the oldest child on my mom's side and thus have to set a good example for the kiddies.

I should probably do some work now.

It just makes him edgy and guilty about every friendship he might have with a woman. It shouldn't have to be that way.

No, it shouldn't. Although I'm actually pretty much edgy and guilty about everything I do.

But, since I'm talking about assumptions, P-C, I'm sorry if I'm making assumptions here that are (1) incorrect, (2) rude, (3) none of my business, and/or (4) all of the above. That's not my intention.

You're all right, Teppy. No worries. *hugs*

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So, in the ever-exciting saga of Why Is Nora Always So Tired? my lab tests came back:

No mono, no diabetes, no anemia. Thyroid, kidney, liver, all functioning normally. Cholesterol = "excellent."

So, yay, and blah. Need a new exercise plan of attack. Yoga and belly dancing, perhaps.

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All I meant was that, by assuming that any woman that P-C might be in proximity to is a girlfriend -- he hasn't done anything to make them think that.

I know. I'm sorry, Tep. I meant to give more context in my response.

Adding to the fun is that a cousin of mine in India eloped with a lower-caste woman and was disowned for about a year, so my parents are scared of more scandal, and of course the fact that I'm the oldest child on my mom's side and thus have to set a good example for the kiddies.

I remember that. Is everything okay with him and his parents now? Oops, you said you were getting back to work.

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Nora, I can't remember -- are you on ADs?

I'm not implying that they're a cure-all, or the answer for every vague symptom cluster. It's just that when my doctor diagnosed me with depression, we did the same thing -- all the blood tests came back normal, etc., etc. So my doctor suggested that exhaustion of unspecified causation could very well be indicative of depression.

I bristled at that suggestion, but when the exhaustion didn't abate over time, I went back and agreed to try ADs, and lo, they worked.

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t tangential

P-C, is your profile email addy (umich.edu) still correct, or is there a better one I should know about and don't?

t /tangential

Also, what everyone else said, but especially beth and Teppy and Cindy, of whose spicy and very wise brains I am utterly in awe.

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So, yay, and blah. Need a new exercise plan of attack. Yoga and belly dancing, perhaps.

Yoga! I'm way into it right now and it certainly helps my energy levels (what also would help would be getting more sleep but I'm really bad at that).

Also, I just started doing accupuncture too and I don't understand it or know what i'm going to get out of it exactly but I do have a friend who did a course of accupuncture to treat problems she was having with exhaustion. And she says it helped her tremendously. (And I know some insurance plans pay for accupuncture at least partially.)

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