Spike's Bitches 30: Going on Thirteen
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
I seem to recall from past conversations that it's not just their problem....P-C does not want that, and isn't averse to doing things their way
All I meant was that, by assuming that any woman that P-C might be in proximity to is a girlfriend -- he hasn't done anything to make them think that. That makes it not his problem. If he was lying about his hot non-Gujarati girlfriend, that would be his problem.
But it seems like his family's assumptions that every woman he spends time with is a girlfriend doesn't do him any favors. It just makes him edgy and guilty about every friendship he might have with a woman. It shouldn't have to be that way.
I totally get that it's complex, and that I can't really understand entirely it b/c it *is* a very specific cultural issue.
But, since I'm talking about assumptions, P-C, I'm sorry if I'm making assumptions here that are (1) incorrect, (2) rude, (3) none of my business, and/or (4) all of the above. That's not my intention.
Adding to the fun is that a cousin of mine in India eloped with a lower-caste woman and was disowned for about a year, so my parents are scared of more scandal, and of course the fact that I'm the oldest child on my mom's side and thus have to set a good example for the kiddies.
I should probably do some work now.
It just makes him edgy and guilty about every friendship he might have with a woman. It shouldn't have to be that way.
No, it shouldn't. Although I'm actually pretty much edgy and guilty about
everything I do.
But, since I'm talking about assumptions, P-C, I'm sorry if I'm making assumptions here that are (1) incorrect, (2) rude, (3) none of my business, and/or (4) all of the above. That's not my intention.
You're all right, Teppy. No worries. *hugs*
So, in the ever-exciting saga of Why Is Nora Always So Tired? my lab tests came back:
No mono, no diabetes, no anemia. Thyroid, kidney, liver, all functioning normally. Cholesterol = "excellent."
So, yay, and blah. Need a new exercise plan of attack. Yoga and belly dancing, perhaps.
All I meant was that, by assuming that any woman that P-C might be in proximity to is a girlfriend -- he hasn't done anything to make them think that.
I know. I'm sorry, Tep. I meant to give more context in my response.
Adding to the fun is that a cousin of mine in India eloped with a lower-caste woman and was disowned for about a year, so my parents are scared of more scandal, and of course the fact that I'm the oldest child on my mom's side and thus have to set a good example for the kiddies.
I remember that. Is everything okay with him and his parents now? Oops, you said you were getting back to work.
Nora, I can't remember -- are you on ADs?
I'm not implying that they're a cure-all, or the answer for every vague symptom cluster. It's just that when my doctor diagnosed me with depression, we did the same thing -- all the blood tests came back normal, etc., etc. So my doctor suggested that exhaustion of unspecified causation could very well be indicative of depression.
I bristled at that suggestion, but when the exhaustion didn't abate over time, I went back and agreed to try ADs, and lo, they worked.
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P-C, is your profile email addy (umich.edu) still correct, or is there a better one I should know about and don't?
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Also, what everyone else said, but especially beth and Teppy and Cindy, of whose spicy and very wise brains I am utterly in awe.
So, yay, and blah. Need a new exercise plan of attack. Yoga and belly dancing, perhaps.
Yoga! I'm way into it right now and it certainly helps my energy levels (what also would help would be getting more sleep but I'm really bad at that).
Also, I just started doing accupuncture too and I don't understand it or know what i'm going to get out of it exactly but I do have a friend who did a course of accupuncture to treat problems she was having with exhaustion. And she says it helped her tremendously. (And I know some insurance plans pay for accupuncture at least partially.)
P-C, is your profile email addy (umich.edu) still correct, or is there a better one I should know about and don't?
JZ, he was still receiving and sending from there as of this past weekend.
Is everything okay with him and his parents now?
He's on his third wife (and I think he's gotten his past two wives pregnant, but maybe it was just one), and his dad is dead. I think things are as okay as they could be.
P-C, is your profile email addy (umich.edu) still correct, or is there a better one I should know about and don't?
It is correct. I am too change-averse to switch over to Gmail right now.
Cindy, of whose spicy and very wise brains I am utterly in awe.
You and me both. Random note: I was thinking of you yesterday and how you are pretty and look good in hats.
Nora - when they checked for anemia, did they specifically check both your hemoglobin level and your iron level? If only one is out of whack it can still cause severe fatigue.
Sophia - When my cat scratched and bit me, my doc sent me to the emergency room, even though the wounds themselves weren't too bad. It was explained to me that the ER is better set-up for wound care than your basic doctor's office, plus there is that added fun of a tetanus shot. Joy!
Raq - glad to hear you got home safe. Did the cap fit Mal?
P-C - I have no advise, but lots of love.
Bev - Tooth~ma and dentist~ma.
I skipped and skimmed - so if I missed anyone else, here is some extra {{{{}}}} and a bunch of glitter.
Now, for mememe news, or actually news of my sprog - K-Bug's softball team took first place in their tournament over the weekend. It was a hard fought battle. They have now qualified for the "Triple Crown World Series" in Park City, Utah. The championship game from that tournament is going to be televised (probably on their local station or something, but still - cool).
