But I understand. You gave up everything you had to find me. And you found me broken. It's hard for you.

River ,'Safe'


Spike's Bitches 30: Going on Thirteen  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Polter-Cow - May 30, 2006 7:45:10 am PDT #6693 of 10002
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!

See what I do for the P-C!?!?!)

I'm sorry, Nora. *hugs*

I, too, have heard tales of folks fooling around before their arranged marriages, but it's been very illicit. Girlfriends are a no-no. If I am seen within ten feet of a girl, she's assumed to be my girlfriend (no, really, there was all this behind-my-back suspicion going on a couple years ago when my uncle picked me up and saw me with a girl (in addition to a boy, but: GIRL!)). When you're under this kind of scrutiny, everything feels illegal.


Amy - May 30, 2006 7:46:15 am PDT #6694 of 10002
Because books.

When you're under this kind of scrutiny, everything feels illegal.

I'm assuming you won't be showing them pictures from the F2F, then?


Nicole - May 30, 2006 7:47:25 am PDT #6695 of 10002
I'm getting the pig!

Sitting firmly in the It's Not Lying If You're Just Leaving Out Certain Details camp.

Go ahead. Try to act surprised.

I did, however, break a tooth on a bone chip in a burger yesterday. Dentist at one today.

Dentist and tooth ~ma to you, Bev! Poor you.

Lots of health and recovery ~ma to many of our lovely Bitches!


Polter-Cow - May 30, 2006 7:48:06 am PDT #6696 of 10002
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!

I'm assuming you won't be showing them pictures from the F2F, then?

I haven't shown them pictures in years because so many of them involve either girls or locations I did not tell them I was going.

Besides, even if your family came up with perfect canidate, you are a few years ( or more) from being ready for marriage.

Actually, I think I expire this year. And now that I have a job, clearly, it's time to get married.


Topic!Cindy - May 30, 2006 7:53:32 am PDT #6697 of 10002
What is even happening?

Has your family been introducing you to any Indian women?


Polter-Cow - May 30, 2006 7:55:27 am PDT #6698 of 10002
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!

Not yet.


beth b - May 30, 2006 7:56:12 am PDT #6699 of 10002
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!

everything feels illegal.

and what you are developing now, is your own sense of right and wrong. Hard yes, but everyone goes through it. Once again, for future relationships, it will be so much easier. you be able to see what your family thinks, see reality, and then know inside that these things might be different.


SailAweigh - May 30, 2006 7:56:50 am PDT #6700 of 10002
Nana korobi, ya oki. (Fall down seven times, stand up eight.) ~Yuzuru Hanyu/Japanese proverb

Belated Hello to Margaret T. Welcome!

Bev, much tooth~ma and may I just say "ow" in sympathy?

P-C, what everyone else has said. Kissing is good. It's also pretty much a pass when there is no commitment anywhere. I know it may be different in your family's culture, but amongst most of us USians, we find any excuse to kiss, because, repeat after me--kissing is good. Not telling your mother you've been kissing girls is not a bad thing. Just, ya know, don't get caught by mom. *g*


beth b - May 30, 2006 7:59:19 am PDT #6701 of 10002
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!

I think I expire this year

now I have to wonder what happens if you expire. Will it be like 'old maids that were on the shelf in the regency romance novels. Will people just look at you , sigh , shake ther heads, and say 'It's such a shame'. and be astonished that anyone female even talks to you?


Polter-Cow - May 30, 2006 8:00:34 am PDT #6702 of 10002
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!

That is exactly what will happen, beth. EXACTLY.