Saffron: But we've been wed. Aren't we to become one flesh? Mal: Well, no, uh... We're still two fleshes here, and I think that your flesh ought to sleep somewhere else.

'Our Mrs. Reynolds'


Spike's Bitches 30: Going on Thirteen  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Polter-Cow - May 30, 2006 7:48:06 am PDT #6696 of 10002
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!

I'm assuming you won't be showing them pictures from the F2F, then?

I haven't shown them pictures in years because so many of them involve either girls or locations I did not tell them I was going.

Besides, even if your family came up with perfect canidate, you are a few years ( or more) from being ready for marriage.

Actually, I think I expire this year. And now that I have a job, clearly, it's time to get married.


Topic!Cindy - May 30, 2006 7:53:32 am PDT #6697 of 10002
What is even happening?

Has your family been introducing you to any Indian women?


Polter-Cow - May 30, 2006 7:55:27 am PDT #6698 of 10002
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!

Not yet.


beth b - May 30, 2006 7:56:12 am PDT #6699 of 10002
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!

everything feels illegal.

and what you are developing now, is your own sense of right and wrong. Hard yes, but everyone goes through it. Once again, for future relationships, it will be so much easier. you be able to see what your family thinks, see reality, and then know inside that these things might be different.


SailAweigh - May 30, 2006 7:56:50 am PDT #6700 of 10002
Nana korobi, ya oki. (Fall down seven times, stand up eight.) ~Yuzuru Hanyu/Japanese proverb

Belated Hello to Margaret T. Welcome!

Bev, much tooth~ma and may I just say "ow" in sympathy?

P-C, what everyone else has said. Kissing is good. It's also pretty much a pass when there is no commitment anywhere. I know it may be different in your family's culture, but amongst most of us USians, we find any excuse to kiss, because, repeat after me--kissing is good. Not telling your mother you've been kissing girls is not a bad thing. Just, ya know, don't get caught by mom. *g*


beth b - May 30, 2006 7:59:19 am PDT #6701 of 10002
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!

I think I expire this year

now I have to wonder what happens if you expire. Will it be like 'old maids that were on the shelf in the regency romance novels. Will people just look at you , sigh , shake ther heads, and say 'It's such a shame'. and be astonished that anyone female even talks to you?


Polter-Cow - May 30, 2006 8:00:34 am PDT #6702 of 10002
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!

That is exactly what will happen, beth. EXACTLY.


sj - May 30, 2006 8:07:51 am PDT #6703 of 10002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

Bev, tooth~ma.

P-C, I have no advice for you. You are in a very difficult situation. Tons of ~ma for you.


Topic!Cindy - May 30, 2006 8:10:14 am PDT #6704 of 10002
What is even happening?

That is exactly what will happen, beth. EXACTLY.

Will you then be free?


Steph L. - May 30, 2006 8:13:19 am PDT #6705 of 10002
I look more rad than Lutheranism

If I am seen within ten feet of a girl, she's assumed to be my girlfriend

That's not your problem, Sunil. It's your family's problem for making that assumption.

I mean, I *totally* understand that it's become your problem b/c their assumptions make you feel like everything you do is illegal, but YOU KNOW that you aren't seeking out a girlfriend. YOU KNOW that just because you're in the company of a woman, that doesn't make her your girlfriend, that you don't have any non-parentally-approved intentions toward her. (Or, at least, if you have those intentions, you don't act on them.)

I mean, you have a job now -- you're going to be working with women, sometimes one-on-one. Do they have a problem with that, too?