Death is your art. You make it with your hands day after day. That final gasp, that look of peace. And part of you is desperate to know: What's it like? Where does it lead you? And now you see, that's the secret. Not the punch you didn't throw or the kicks you didn't land. She really wanted it. Every Slayer has a death wish. Even you.

Spike ,'Conversations with Dead People'


Spike's Bitches 30: Going on Thirteen  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Deena - May 30, 2006 7:10:31 am PDT #6675 of 10002
How are you me? You need to stop that. Only I can be me. ~Kara

and it's a slippery slope when you begin lying to your mother.

Hah. A slippery slope to autonomy.

I may have mother issues.

Working! That's right! I forgot what I was supposed to be doing.


Nora Deirdre - May 30, 2006 7:10:41 am PDT #6676 of 10002
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)

I hadn't even thought of that when I simply agreed with her, and it's a slippery slope when you begin lying to your mother.

Hmm. I wouldn't think of it as lying to parents, because, if it were me my assumption would be that it is none of my parents' business who I kiss, and I'd be fine and dandy telling them that my thrice-kissed lips and the rest of me were A-OK. And I am a shitty liar.

There is a crucial difference between open line of communication/honesty and no-boundaries, must share everything, when the child in question is, in fact, an adult.

So, you know, don't beat yourself up, my friend. You're not lying to your mom. You're living your life and you're entitled to keep some boundaries and privacy while doing so.


Steph L. - May 30, 2006 7:12:28 am PDT #6677 of 10002
I look more rad than Lutheranism

Deena and Nora speak for me, with the mommy issues and the autonomy and the boundaries. Yes.


sj - May 30, 2006 7:12:35 am PDT #6678 of 10002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

{{{Teppy}}}

Deena, can you link me to that bead website you like next time you come here for a mental break? Good luck with work.


Deena - May 30, 2006 7:13:12 am PDT #6679 of 10002
How are you me? You need to stop that. Only I can be me. ~Kara

Oh, yes, that's what I meant, what Nora said! Nora, you speak for me today, okay? I'm going to actually work now. For at least 10 minutes.


Deena - May 30, 2006 7:15:14 am PDT #6680 of 10002
How are you me? You need to stop that. Only I can be me. ~Kara

Yay, sj! Another excuse not to work!

[link]


Amy - May 30, 2006 7:15:30 am PDT #6681 of 10002
Because books.

You're living your life and you're entitled to keep some boundaries and privacy while doing so.

So very much this. Nora can speak for me today, too.

I'm going to actually work now. For at least 10 minutes.

Ready? Set? Go!


Trudy Booth - May 30, 2006 7:15:31 am PDT #6682 of 10002
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart

"yes, Mom, yes, Mom" seems more do-able than "Mom, this is really none of your business."


Scrappy - May 30, 2006 7:15:32 am PDT #6683 of 10002
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.

I don't know, Sunil. Once I started dating, I didn't lie to my parents so much as not tell them everything. They didn't need to know every person I spoke to or flirted with or kissed--and it really wasn't their business. I think if you tell her when you are seriously interested in someone, that's enough.

ETA: Or what everyone else said while I was typing htis post, only they did it better.


sj - May 30, 2006 7:20:40 am PDT #6684 of 10002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

Yay, sj! Another excuse not to work!

Happy to help! Thanks for the link.