I'm not a gamer, but I enjoy kibitzing at games. I need to find out how to approach a group of gamers and tell them "Hi! Not a gamer, but I like hanging out with gamers."

Signed,

At something of a lack for a social life

I had a major crush on a guy in my last gaming group. Not only did he not go for me, he went for a non-gaming woman who tried to get him out of the whole gaming thing for religious reasons. My ego should be recovering any day now.

Good luck with the relationship hunt, bt. I think the way you're approaching the matter makes a lot of sense, and I hope something works out for you soon.

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D. Griswold "Spike's Bitches 25 to Life" Jul 19, 2005 6:57:41 pm PDT

I need to find out how to approach a group of gamers and tell them "Hi! Not a gamer, but I like hanging out with gamers."

Go to a game store, find a group that looks appealing, sit down nearby, watch for a bit while maintaining a look of interest, then ask, "How do you play this?" You don't have to play, but it shows you appreciate the game and you're not just bored and looking for people to annoy. Gamers are shy folk, and mundanes make them skittish. This whole process may take a while, because games can go for a long time, and the gamers are probably focusing on arcane strategies.

Mixed relationships of gamer guy vs. non-gamer girl are tricky, because too many times the girl has the hidden agenda of "I'll get him to stop wasting time on that idiotic hobby and those pathetic friends and spend the time with me."

See, I'd dig a gamer guy, because I'd *know* that he wouldn't always be hanging about my place, bothering me. I think I need less couple-y-schmoop-time than most human beings.

I am so with you, Steph.

Go to a game store, find a group that looks appealing, sit down nearby, watch for a bit while maintaining a look of interest, then ask, "How do you play this?"

Heh. When I go to pick up my comic books next week, I'll be sure to find out when the gamers tend to meet.

I'd *know* that he wouldn't always be hanging about my place, bothering me. I think I need less couple-y-schmoop-time than most human beings.

Oh, hell yes. I know some couples whose social lives overlap 100%. If that works for them, great. I'd go completely 'round the bend in less than a fortnight.

I don't actually get why it's any worse than Guy's Poker Night...but of course I know wives who object to that also.

I know wives who object to that also.

That drives me crazy. My mom told me that the wife of one of my stepdad's friends asked her why she "let" my stepdad go on so many hunting trips with his buddies.

I don't actually get why it's any worse than Guy's Poker Night

Because poker is manly. Playing with toy soldiers is childish. Of course, telling that to the oodles of historical battles re-enactors and their fortunes in perfectly detailed Napoleonic or Civil War miniatures would get you laughed at.

I feel like I should start a gamer dating service--all these lovely girls who would appreciate a sweet geek of their very own.