I think Darla had an extremely heroic death for someone most of whose time was spent being a villain. I mean, there are two classes of villain -- the ones we get inside of (Darla, Lilah, Jonathan, Faith if she'd died S3) and the ones with whom we have less intimacy. Darla definitely skews to the "did a million bad things, many of which were onscreen" side of that countinuum.

Oh, and Angel didn't die. It's a thing.

I'd give Darla a heroic death--well, the last time--but not Jenny. She didn't die wussy, but she didn't die for a reason either.

But Angelus killed Jenny because she was trying to resoul him. She didn't die in the heat of battle, but she was murdered because of her powers.

Men abandon, women die. Doesn't make anyone look that good.

In a way, but I would much rather be in Spain boffing my secretary than die of a brain hemorrage -- or go to Nepal to find myself, instead of being shot. OTOH, Joyce is a good guy and Hank is pretty much a bad guy, so maybe it's all about whether you look pretty or whether you survive.

Oh, and Angel didn't die. It's a thing.

He was mourned, though, when he was sucked into hell, or however you want to technically define the "had a sword stuck through him and went to hell" part. Especially by Buffy.

Well, technically, Angel was already dead. If he had been alive (not a vamp) when Buffy ran him through with the sword, gone to hell, and then come back, that probably would have counted as him dying and a resurrection, right?

I would much rather be in Spain boffing my secretary than die of a brain hemorrage

But would you rather be remembered in history as the one that abandoned your daughter, or the one that stayed with her through thick and thin?

The women do get to retain their nobility upon exiting the show. Deaths are easy that way.

He was mourned, though

Doesn't make him dead. Just makes him mourned. I would mourn forcing my boyfriend to go to Australia under traumatic conditions, never mind somewhere without Internet access.

If he had been alive (not a vamp) when Buffy ran him through with the sword, gone to hell, and then come back, that probably would have counted as him dying and a resurrection, right?

Yeah. If Faith had died when Buffy stabbed her, that would have counted as her dying too. But she didn't, so we can't.

But would you rather be remembered in history as the one that abandoned your daughter, or the one that stayed with her through thick and thin?

I would rather be alive and with my daughter. If that wasn't an option? Then yeah, the good mommy award is ... good. And I think your point about death allowing for more nobility is a good one.

But Angelus killed Jenny because she was trying to resoul him. She didn't die in the heat of battle, but she was murdered because of her powers.

Mmmm... yeah, okay. The part where she was fleeing gives it a different vibe for me, though. (This should not be taken as a criticism of her decision to flee or skill in doing so, though it should be taken as a criticism of her decision to sit around after dark in a school that Angelus could enter rather than going the heck home. Silly woman.)

So ita, in your view, Angel can't count as having died, because he was dead to begin with, even though he went through something that would have been dying to anyone who was still alive, and capabable of dying?

Does Spike's immolation count as dying?

Good question, P-C. I would guess yes, under the theory that he, like Darla, got dusted, and the fact that he came back as a ghost.