All we'd be doing is engaging in speculation, Trudy, and what use is that? How can you use it to sway someone's mind, or use it as ballast?
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Tricky for people who aren't here to talk about why they aren't, isn't it?
Tricky for people who aren't here to talk about why they aren't, isn't it?
And trickier for us to talk about it. So maybe we should, as Kat suggested, stop.
If you don't care that and why people get unhappy and leave I suppose that is an option.
Caring or not caring has nothing to do with it.
It has to do with speaking for yourself, and not speaking for other people.
Trudy, JenK can tell us why she got unhappy and left. JohnH can tell us why he left ... and so on. If they haven't, we're just engaging in gossip and speculation. Or vague references, which we can't use to learn from.
So what's the point?
Trudy, No one is saying that. They are just trying not to put words in other people's mouths or guess what they might feel. It is a good thing.
So people should make "I'm leaving and not coming back and here's why" statements before we'll discuss their departures? And that discussion would be anything other than "boy, that was childish?"
Here's an idea, go back and look at Elena's posts. She's not coming back for a good long time if ever.
Also, Jen was fairly upfront about saying that she didn't fault Allyson for expressing herself the way she did. So if we're going to keep referencing it, maybe we could at least include that as a disclaimer.
So people should make "I'm leaving and not coming back and here's why" statements before we'll discuss their departures? And that discussion would be anything other than "boy, that was childish?"
Here's an idea, go back and look at Elena's posts. She's not coming back for a good long time if ever.
If they want to, sure. It's up to them. If they don't, I am not going to say I know why they left.
eta: I am sorry Elena left. I wish she hadn't. I don't know what that has to do with Jen's leaving though.