Trudy, if you have the facts about JenK, share them, and convince us why you know the truth.

Except I don't really want to say that, because I don't think it's your place, and that it's incredibily rude to pretend it is.

If what Elena posted is her explaining why she's never coming back, then voila! No hearsay, actual evidence.

I can't believe I'm having to take a stand against talking behind someone's back in public about something so sensitive and personal.

Where is that polite?

I'm with ita.

I don't really know why JenK left, anymore than I know why John H left. If they wanted me to know, they'd have told me.

They didn't, therefore it's not my business.

Nor yours, to tell me.

What. ita. said.

Trudy, unless JenK or anyone else asked me to speak for them, I would feel uncomfortable using them and their feelings to bolster an argument,
even if I knew what those feelings were. I think you are being honest here and I admire that, but it does involve speaking for someone else, and about a subject that is painful for them. I think there is too much possibilty of misspeaking and even MORE hurt feelings there.

OK, here's the deal: I intended only to take a few days' break, for deep breathing and to stop feeling crappy/hurt/guilty/etc. What ended up happening is much as Kat suggests; a combination of meatspace things followed hard on the heels of that day, none of which have anything to do with the board at all[1]. They, far more than anything else, have kept me away and will almost certainly continue to do so for the forseeable future.

So there it is, straight from the horse's mouth. I haven't read more than the last 20 or so preceding posts, so I have no idea how or if I'm relevant to the discussion at hand, but I hope this information is helpful somehow.

Also, my profile email address is good and I would love to hear from anyone with the inclination to be in touch, about this or just to say hello.

[1] In brief: I got a divorce. 80-90 hours of classes/labs/studying/clinicals per week is pretty standard right now. I've been feeling a bit crappy MS-wise. Yeah, and there's that whole divorce thing.

Here's an idea, go back and look at Elena's posts. She's not coming back for a good long time if ever.

Trudy, I'm going to assume (always a dangerous thing) that the deathmatch kerfuffle was the last straw, rather than the catalyst. To which I say, go back and read the posts when the objections were raised. Given that there were numerous responses at the time saying variations of "I don't see anything wrong with the death match posts in press", do you really think it even would have gotten to the voting stage? If it had happened when she was on vacation, would she even have known about it unless she went back and looked? People expressed their prefrences for the posts to stop. I know my response was several posts along the lines of "I don't see what's so hard about scrolling past". I'm fairly certain I wasn't alone in those sentiments.

Thaks, Jen! And we miss you.

As usual, what Scrappy said.

Even though she's Robin now.

Not enough "What Scrappy Said" t-shirts in the world...

Jen!