Since I think this issue is pretty dead as far as the current proposal, I'm stating here, for the record, that, if no one else wants to draft a proposal regarding time limits for warning effectiveness and the definition of the requirements of moving to suspension after a warning has been issued, I'll do it. I'm a little nervous about it and I will be asking for assistance, but I brought it up, so I'll do it.

Is there any way to get the thread up above BBaBB? If not, that's cool. Thanks.

I don't think so.

Okay. One wee, small, I was gone all day thing...

Those of you who are so upset at someone honestly answering a question, well. That baffles me. Honestly. It just seems like questions were being asked, when the answer would be known, and you'd know you wouldn't like it.

Okay, maybe there's such a thing as too much honesty, but you know what? I think I find (and this goes for anyone, because I brought it up WRT to Zoe, and I brought it up WRT me, and I'll bring it up now) asking someone to apologize like that is, well... counterproductive. All it does for me is get my back up and make me even more stubborn or truculent. Fight or flight. It pushes all my buttons, and I find it kind of offensive, even if I've probably been guilty of it myself.

Just something to keep in mind.

There's a difference between asking for an apology (or saying that one is warranted) and expressing your own personal feelings of offense or affront. The first would get my back up - the second would distress me and likely make me want to apologise for hurt feelings, even if not for the initial statement.

I was seeing a lot of the first.

Pinged my "grrr" instinct.

Allyson, I too am going to ask you to back down on this. You're not sorry? You don't have to feel sorry. We don't legislate feelings. But we do legislate actions, and your actions on this thread and the previous one make me uncomfortable, and I want you to stop.

I'm just not mincing words.

I know you like to claim that diplomacy's not for you, Allyson, but really. If you can't talk nice, don't say nothing at all. It's perfectly possible to make your point without resorting to trashtalk. I'm tired of it.

Back down on what?

People keep asking questions -- she's given the same answer pretty much every time -- an unrepentant one, but it's the same damned answer.

What new is going to happen here? Is it less rude for to ignore the questions?

ita, I can't speak for the others in this discussion, but my thinking is that I can't let rudeness like that go. Even if Allyson has no intention of apologizing to me, for making this thread ugly, I'd like the record to show that that kind of thing doesn't go unchallenged.

Allyson can argue her side all she likes, and I do understand what she's said so far. But I can't live with the way she's said it, not without chiding her for her tone.

Nutty, that's just the kind of thing that, were I Allyson, would be getting my back up and making me even more upset.

As you probably remember from the Go14 Debacle.

It shouldn't have been brought up in the first place, and fifty or a hundred posts like that aren't going to make Allyson change her mind about how she feels, for crying out loud.

It reads to me, and pretty much all of the posts directed after her statement read to me as the infamous pile-on. If someone says no, mind changing isn't going to happen, and I'm not going to apologize for answering the question honestly, then why the hell keep asking it/poking at it?

So, if I read it correctly, you're saying "Allyson, let us challenge you, but ignore the question, since we don't want to hear the response?"

Because a) you state that it shouldn't go unchallenged that b) she shouldn't say anything if she can't say anything nice.

Did I miss anything?