Giles ,'Chosen'
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Jessica, I'm sorry that happened to you. Thanks for telling us now. eta: Sunil's behaviour towards you was completely unacceptable
I remember the things DX mention, and I remember DX saying somewhere that his behaviour and his presence were one of the reasons that he stayed away from the Board. But I don't really interact with him in many threads, and don't have any offline experience with him. So I am not sure what else to say, but I am reading, listening and learning.
I sincerely hope he does change(although I am a skeptic) but the question is whether we want him to do it on our time or not.(And maybe he's just upset that his literary friends have taken him to the woodshed, but I like to believe that people can reform, eventually.)
Yeah, Matt, that's me, too. He has always rubbed me the wrong way, and I remember some of the early stuff, like "You changed your tagline." And I trust Jess.
I hoped that like a lot of twenty-somethings he had learned when people told him he was being a creep. I don't believe everything I read on the internet, but it seems like there's a lot of smoke out there. It's ten years later and he still hasn't learned.
That was more than ten years ago. Around 2003. (I'm remembering how it lined up with when I graduated college.) I thought I was overreacting, then.
I hoped that like a lot of twenty-somethings he had learned when people told him he was being a creep. I don't believe everything I read on the internet, but it seems like there's a lot of smoke out there. It's ten years later and he still hasn't learned.
I believe the women who are reporting behaviors I can back up with my own memories. Like I said, I cut off all contact, but based on what I'm being told now, nothing has changed.
I am sorry that so many people have been hurt by Sunil. Jessica, thank you for your story.
Count me as one who never had a problem with him, but now that I know his behavior to others was harmful, I support banning him. My gut clenches at the idea of a vote for such a thing, but I think it is one of those times where the right thing to do feels horrible no matter how you slice it.
I'm one of the people who's limited her board time to avoid Sunil, as well as avoiding real-life situations. And Jessica, I'm sorry.
Jessica,
Thank you for sharing. I am sorry. FWIW, and I know I am a prodigal daughter, but I would be in favor of banning.
I have had my own misgivings about him for years based on things he has posted here. Given what I read here and on twitter (and I came to know about this whole thing things morning after reading a RT from Cleolinda - OMGWTFPOLARBEAR), I think his behavior is WAY beyond the pale.
Juliana, didn't you do theatre with him? Did he engage in troubling h behavior there?
We have theater friends in common, but I've avoided working with him. I've also failed to ask any of my friends about his behavior.