'Life of the Party'
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I'm a bit gobsmacked myself. I like to think I can spot someone with these behaviors.
Maybe even wondering if I have been recalling a younger more reticent PC, and just projected that.
I know I've been in and out the last couple of years, but I think of the Buffistas as home ground. No one is above reproach for hurting others.
Jessica, I'm sorry and, like others, i'm sorry you went through it alone. I wish we were better about calling things out; I know I'm guilty of MARCIE-ing, skimming, ignoring.
Jessica, I'm sorry you had to deal with that (and same to anyone else out there who also did) and I'm with y'all. Not interested in him as a part of this community.
Jessica, thank you for posting. I'm sorry, too, that we didn't have your back when it happened.
I'm sorry, too, that we didn't have your back when it happened.
Yes, I am too.
i thought he was joking, and once I decide that I'm not someone's fan, it can get a little over-zealous...didn't want to be That Girl.
I'm sorry, too, that we didn't have your back when it happened.
Me too.
Maybe even wondering if I have been recalling a younger more reticent PC, and just projected that.
Yeah, me too. I met him once, more than 10 years ago, and we didn't interact much. While I've never had a problem with him, I've also never spent much time with him. If other people are uncomfortable and leaving our board because of him, I believe them and I think he should go. That one post about Jessica really is enough, all by itself.
I'm with Zen. And I'm really sorry we failed you.
I don't want to force people to tell their stories if they don't feel comfortable doing so, but OTOH -- and I feel uncomfortable even saying this much -- it feels weird to be considering banning someone without anything more recent than the super-shitty episode with Jess. I don't want to turn it into a pile-on, or make people feel pressured to share, but, well, the very few times people have gotten banned before it's been after something clear and obvious and unambiguous.
I put a whole lot of trust in the bad feelings of so many people whom I value deeply, and whose absence from here I have mourned, and I want you feeling safe to come back; I just wish this weren't so murky.
And now I more than halfway regret even saying this. There are no good options.