I hate that you had to deal with that discomfort alone.
This.
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JZ - Oct 15, 2016 4:55:24 pm PDT #9819 of 10289
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.
sj - Oct 15, 2016 4:59:16 pm PDT #9820 of 10289
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
I know in the past I've noticed behavior from him that bordered on creepy, but nothing that I thought rose to the level of something that the community needed to address. But it does make me inclined to believe those speaking out now, and I'm horrified to think we've lost community members because of him.
This.
Also, what Allyson said.
aurelia - Oct 15, 2016 5:02:23 pm PDT #9821 of 10289
All sorrows can be borne if you put them into a story. Tell me a story.
I hate that you had to deal with that discomfort alone.
Agreed.
Allyson - Oct 15, 2016 5:06:32 pm PDT #9822 of 10289
Wait, is this real-world child support, where the money goes to buy food for the kids, or MRA fantasyland child support where the women just buy Ferraris and cocaine? -Jessica
Why didn't we talk to each other?
smonster - Oct 15, 2016 5:07:36 pm PDT #9823 of 10289
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
Ugh, Jess. Thank you for speaking up. My jaw was hanging open reading that.
Count me among the those who found his behavior creepy in person and online, but thought I was the only one.
Jessica - Oct 15, 2016 5:11:36 pm PDT #9824 of 10289
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset
There was some backchanneling. When nobody called him out on the creepy board post, I didn't want to cause a scene.
smonster - Oct 15, 2016 5:15:09 pm PDT #9825 of 10289
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
Well, we are trained not to cause a scene, to get along, to doubt our instincts.
shrift - Oct 15, 2016 5:19:53 pm PDT #9826 of 10289
"You can't put a price on the joy of not giving a shit." -Zenkitty
Greetings from Melbourne, y'all. This is not how I wanted to check in on B.org, but it is what it is.
Thank you for posting that, Jessica.
I also find this deeply upsetting, but I've had enough conversations with Buffistas off the board to be in favor.
DCJensen - Oct 15, 2016 5:22:04 pm PDT #9827 of 10289
All is well that ends in pizza.
I'm a bit gobsmacked myself. I like to think I can spot someone with these behaviors.
Maybe even wondering if I have been recalling a younger more reticent PC, and just projected that.
I know I've been in and out the last couple of years, but I think of the Buffistas as home ground. No one is above reproach for hurting others.
Kat - Oct 15, 2016 5:34:26 pm PDT #9828 of 10289
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo
Jessica, I'm sorry and, like others, i'm sorry you went through it alone. I wish we were better about calling things out; I know I'm guilty of MARCIE-ing, skimming, ignoring.