This is how I see it:
1) 10 complaints = warning? or 10 complaint = warning *unless* the offender either makes nice-nice in the thread or over in Bureaucracy?
There wouldn't, I believe it is supposed, be 10 complaints if the offender makes nice nice. Or, some of the complaints will likely be withdrawn if the offender waits to make nice until after it goes to bureacracy. Still, making nice would probably make it go away, until the next time, if there is a next time.
2) Enforced apologies have been seen as the worthless things they are, so apology is not required, but behavior modification is.
Yes
3) Time limit for bringing up a complaint regarding a specific incident is 3 days? That isn't in the ballot yet, right? Also, once a complaint has been raised, all past hurts and whines may be brought up?
No, two days, and it depends on the nature of the complaint.
Complaint type A: "Poster Monkeypants just talked about my momma and, no matter what I've said, won't stop talking about my momma, so I want a warning," and 10 other people chime in with, "yes, that was terrifically offensive to me as a buffista and a momma and a momma haver."
Complaint type B: "Over the past couple of months, Poster Monkeybritches has posted rude things about my momma, and I've been trying to ignore it, but she also makes racial slurs, sexual orientation slurs, and then backs off and says she'll leave, but then comes back and does it again the next day, over and over again and I'm tired of ignoring it and I think it's hurting the whole board." And then 10 other buffistas chime in with, "Yes, this is offensive to me...", etc.