That poor kid. It's way too young, and I feel awful for his family/. I also know you know it's not your fault, but I want to stress that you did even more than you could have reasonably been expected to do. I feel so horrible for all of you. It's really such a sad outcome.

Yeah, it has made for a sad day. Truly a good person and clearly dealing with even more than we really knew.

Oh, I'm so sorry, Pix. That's so sad.

I also know you know it's not your fault, but I want to stress that you did even more than you could have reasonably been expected to do.

This is true too.

Pix, I'm so sad, especially because he was so good for your Dad.

We've had a real string of deaths and departures of residents here. News yesterday that B who was moved to what she was told was 'temporary' rehab up in VT (right near her daughter) is going to be staying. I'd kind of hoped that would happen, because B has had several major falls in the past couple months and really needs a higher level of care than she was willing to take from us. But it's another of my steady regular 'customers' gone.

And then today I found out another good one was moving out --at least it's for a better reason --she'd moved here because her husband needed us, he died, and now she's going to move to RI, in a real apartment of her own near her daughter. (The number of residents that we have that get to move out to independent living situations is very small.) She had taught Latin American Literature at Emerson, and ran a regular seminar on poetry for our residents that was well attended and appreciated, so while I'm so glad she's able to go on to another adventure, her presence will be much missed.

TL,DR: Death sucks.

Theo, I'm sorry for the losses. But also grateful for the ones who are moving to better circumstances.

Pix and Drew, I'm sorry for circumstances with your dad's carer, too. You did far more for him than would have been expected.

Here it's 20F degrees lower temps today than it has been all week. I'm sitting here in my chair and *not sweating at all!* Also the deep-tissue aches I have in hot weather are...not! I also picked up a few new exercizes at PT yesterday, and I'm feeling pretty accomplished about those. Pretty much baby steps, but I can move and not die, so that's a big plus.

Mr. Man is driving again. If I'd known that driving would restore his will to live I'd have handed over the keys long ago (no I wouldn't--he was sick and weak, but he's strong enough now it's not a risk).

TL,DR: Death sucks.

Yes.

Mr. Man is driving again. If I'd known that driving would restore his will to live I'd have handed over the keys long ago (no I wouldn't--he was sick and weak, but he's strong enough now it's not a risk).

The to drive or not to drive question can be very complex.

Pix and Drew, I'm so sorry about J. That's very sad.

In random last minute decision making, I just made reservations to fly to Florida Saturday. My MIL's 80th birthday is Sunday (yes, she is closer to my age than DH), and my sister is having surgery on Tuesday and I just thought both would appreciate me being there. Brendon is over the moon. I think he might miss me.

Oh Pix and Drew that is so sad

My condolences, Pix and Drew. You really did go above and beyond for him, I don't think you should have any regrets for how you handled things on your end.