You can't open the book of my life and jump in the middle. Like woman, I'm a mystery.

Mal ,'Our Mrs. Reynolds'


Natter 78: I might need to watch some Buffy for inspiration

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Theodosia - Jul 11, 2024 3:12:58 pm PDT #1491 of 2667
'we all walk this earth feeling we are frauds. The trick is to be grateful and hope the caper doesn't end any time soon"

Pix, I'm so sad, especially because he was so good for your Dad.

We've had a real string of deaths and departures of residents here. News yesterday that B who was moved to what she was told was 'temporary' rehab up in VT (right near her daughter) is going to be staying. I'd kind of hoped that would happen, because B has had several major falls in the past couple months and really needs a higher level of care than she was willing to take from us. But it's another of my steady regular 'customers' gone.

And then today I found out another good one was moving out --at least it's for a better reason --she'd moved here because her husband needed us, he died, and now she's going to move to RI, in a real apartment of her own near her daughter. (The number of residents that we have that get to move out to independent living situations is very small.) She had taught Latin American Literature at Emerson, and ran a regular seminar on poetry for our residents that was well attended and appreciated, so while I'm so glad she's able to go on to another adventure, her presence will be much missed.

TL,DR: Death sucks.


Beverly - Jul 11, 2024 4:48:48 pm PDT #1492 of 2667
Days shrink and grow cold, sunlight through leaves is my song. Winter is long.

Theo, I'm sorry for the losses. But also grateful for the ones who are moving to better circumstances.

Pix and Drew, I'm sorry for circumstances with your dad's carer, too. You did far more for him than would have been expected.

Here it's 20F degrees lower temps today than it has been all week. I'm sitting here in my chair and *not sweating at all!* Also the deep-tissue aches I have in hot weather are...not! I also picked up a few new exercizes at PT yesterday, and I'm feeling pretty accomplished about those. Pretty much baby steps, but I can move and not die, so that's a big plus.

Mr. Man is driving again. If I'd known that driving would restore his will to live I'd have handed over the keys long ago (no I wouldn't--he was sick and weak, but he's strong enough now it's not a risk).


Laura - Jul 11, 2024 5:22:10 pm PDT #1493 of 2667
Our wings are not tired.

TL,DR: Death sucks.

Yes.

Mr. Man is driving again. If I'd known that driving would restore his will to live I'd have handed over the keys long ago (no I wouldn't--he was sick and weak, but he's strong enough now it's not a risk).

The to drive or not to drive question can be very complex.


Steph L. - Jul 11, 2024 6:05:06 pm PDT #1494 of 2667
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated

Pix and Drew, I'm so sorry about J. That's very sad.


Laura - Jul 11, 2024 6:42:36 pm PDT #1495 of 2667
Our wings are not tired.

In random last minute decision making, I just made reservations to fly to Florida Saturday. My MIL's 80th birthday is Sunday (yes, she is closer to my age than DH), and my sister is having surgery on Tuesday and I just thought both would appreciate me being there. Brendon is over the moon. I think he might miss me.


lisah - Jul 11, 2024 7:29:44 pm PDT #1496 of 2667
Punishingly Intricate

Oh Pix and Drew that is so sad


Matt the Bruins fan - Jul 12, 2024 6:56:26 am PDT #1497 of 2667
"You should never say bad things about the dead, only good… Joan Crawford is dead. Good.” —Bette Davis

My condolences, Pix and Drew. You really did go above and beyond for him, I don't think you should have any regrets for how you handled things on your end.


dcp - Jul 12, 2024 9:16:48 am PDT #1498 of 2667
"I yam what I yam and that's all what I yam," -- Popeye

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Theodosia - Jul 13, 2024 7:21:05 am PDT #1499 of 2667
'we all walk this earth feeling we are frauds. The trick is to be grateful and hope the caper doesn't end any time soon"

What are people doing this weekend?


Steph L. - Jul 13, 2024 8:05:01 am PDT #1500 of 2667
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated

My very exciting Saturday involves taking the car for its 5000-mile service, since (1) it's due, and (2) we leave for the beach in 2 weeks and want to make sure the car is in shape.