But? There's always a but. When this is over, can we have a big 'but' moratorium?

Fred ,'Smile Time'


Natter 78: I might need to watch some Buffy for inspiration

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


-t - Jul 11, 2024 1:02:29 pm PDT #1482 of 2668
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Oh, Pix, I'm so sorry. That's such sad news. I'm glad he and your father could help each other the last few years.


Laura - Jul 11, 2024 1:07:17 pm PDT #1483 of 2668
Our wings are not tired.

Oh Pix, that is such a tragedy. He had so many sweet nurturing qualities, but he just self-sabotaged his life repeatedly. I am so sorry to hear this.


askye - Jul 11, 2024 1:11:22 pm PDT #1484 of 2668
Thrive to spite them

Oh Pix that is so sad.


Calli - Jul 11, 2024 1:37:24 pm PDT #1485 of 2668
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs

I’m sorry, Pix. How sad.


Amy - Jul 11, 2024 1:41:07 pm PDT #1486 of 2668
Because books.

Oh Pix, 26. That's so, so sad.


meara - Jul 11, 2024 1:44:52 pm PDT #1487 of 2668

Oh no, Pix, that's so sad.

Amy, I feel like anywhere but California, you can do almost anything you want, but I feel like in California they have such strict labor laws...


P.M. Marc - Jul 11, 2024 2:00:36 pm PDT #1488 of 2668
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear

That poor kid. It's way too young, and I feel awful for his family/. I also know you know it's not your fault, but I want to stress that you did even more than you could have reasonably been expected to do. I feel so horrible for all of you. It's really such a sad outcome.


NoiseDesign - Jul 11, 2024 2:58:33 pm PDT #1489 of 2668
Our wings are not tired

Yeah, it has made for a sad day. Truly a good person and clearly dealing with even more than we really knew.


DavidS - Jul 11, 2024 3:08:15 pm PDT #1490 of 2668
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

Oh, I'm so sorry, Pix. That's so sad.

I also know you know it's not your fault, but I want to stress that you did even more than you could have reasonably been expected to do.

This is true too.


Theodosia - Jul 11, 2024 3:12:58 pm PDT #1491 of 2668
'we all walk this earth feeling we are frauds. The trick is to be grateful and hope the caper doesn't end any time soon"

Pix, I'm so sad, especially because he was so good for your Dad.

We've had a real string of deaths and departures of residents here. News yesterday that B who was moved to what she was told was 'temporary' rehab up in VT (right near her daughter) is going to be staying. I'd kind of hoped that would happen, because B has had several major falls in the past couple months and really needs a higher level of care than she was willing to take from us. But it's another of my steady regular 'customers' gone.

And then today I found out another good one was moving out --at least it's for a better reason --she'd moved here because her husband needed us, he died, and now she's going to move to RI, in a real apartment of her own near her daughter. (The number of residents that we have that get to move out to independent living situations is very small.) She had taught Latin American Literature at Emerson, and ran a regular seminar on poetry for our residents that was well attended and appreciated, so while I'm so glad she's able to go on to another adventure, her presence will be much missed.

TL,DR: Death sucks.