Prepare to uncouple -- uncouple.

Oz ,'Same Time, Same Place'


Natter 77: I miss my friends. I miss my enemies. I miss the people I talked to every day.  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Dana - Sep 10, 2021 9:07:13 am PDT #9095 of 30000
"I'm useless alone." // "We're all useless alone. It's a good thing you're not alone."

Did some work. Now I'm taking an oatmeal break.


DavidS - Sep 10, 2021 9:15:54 am PDT #9096 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

-t, you can schedule a shingles shot through Walgreens.

I have been very concerned about DH. His weight is out of control.

Ach, I wish I could cook for him and make him a pile of all protein/no carb meals. When I started my weight loss it took me about a month of mental/emotional processing just to commit to it. It helped that it was such a strict diet because there was no ambiguity about what I should or shouldn't eat, and it was also clear that I couldn't do it incrementally or bargain my way to potato chips. You're trying to get yourself into ketosis and maintain it and any fudging derails that.

Which I realize is not the best approach for everybody, but it did make me build different habits around eating. I stopped grazing. I stopped eating when I was bored. The biggest though was I didn't reward myself with food for emotional ups or downs. That's where you get lost: "I'm having a shitty day, I deserve ice cream" etc.

I was motivated to lose the weight because of my sciatica. His issues with back pain might be a motivator for him. Getting rid of pain is worth skipping potato chips.


meara - Sep 10, 2021 9:27:56 am PDT #9097 of 30000

David my problem is long term vs short term rewards. Would avoiding this potato chip and the next one help me be not in pain someday? Sure. But would it make my mouth and my dopamine receptors happy right NOW? Yes.


-t - Sep 10, 2021 9:30:43 am PDT #9098 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

I am so used to Kaiser just telling me when to get shots the idea of a pharmacy never occurred to me. Huh. I still would like to get it through Kaiser just to have it on record with everything else, but it's probably easily arranged. I can't find any way to do it on the app, maybe just drop in. Hm.

Typing with my laptop up on the desk rather than on my lap is killing my arms, btw. This is why I have a standup desk, tbh, because the keyboard tray can go low enough to be comfortable for me while sitting with my feet on the floor (I have also tried elevating my seat to raise my arms to the correct height for the desk and using a footrest but hopping up onto the chair makes me feel like I am taking my life into my hands) and the docking station is not talking to that whole system and there has been no answer to my plea via Help Ticket yet. Woes.

The one other person who is here today is in his office with the door shut but I can still hear him talking on the phone, so that is helping me remember to be quiet...


-t - Sep 10, 2021 9:35:05 am PDT #9099 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Update from PG&E is that they expect to restore power by 5pm, so I guess I will be in the office all day. Well, at least this is a relatively easy option for me ergonomics notwithstanding


Laura - Sep 10, 2021 9:39:59 am PDT #9100 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.

Ach, I wish I could cook for him and make him a pile of all protein/no carb meals.

I do this every day for myself, and for his meals. But he supplements with junk. I've been in ketosis so long now that I couldn't care less about chips and pizza when I have cheese and bacon on my list. Even at the movies I might have 10 pieces of his popcorn, if any, and he polishes off the whole large bag. He knows he has to do something, but just won't commit.


Toddson - Sep 10, 2021 9:53:04 am PDT #9101 of 30000
Friends don't let friends read "Atlas Shrugged"

I try to keep up on my immunizations - I had the DTP shot a couple of years ago, both shingles shots, flu shot, COVID vaccine. I have - twice - had the pneumonia shot, but both times it left me feeling like I had the flu for two weeks, so I'm not going to repeat that. Last time the doctor talked me into having the shot, but I think my experience means not going through that again. (I actually had measles, mumps and chicken pox, so I'm immune for life, seemingly ... which always shocks the young doctors. That I had the diseases, since I had them before there were any vaccines. I do remember polio and smallpox shots, but seemingly no longer necessary.)


-t - Sep 10, 2021 10:17:43 am PDT #9102 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

I called KP and I have to get the shingles vaccine ordered for me by my doctor, but that can all be done via message, apparently. I think my PCP was changed on me at some point, the name they mentioned wasn't one I recognized. I have not been to actually see my doctor in, um, some time I don't even remember. I suppose I ought to do that at some point. 2022 perhaps.

Not due for TDAP until next year, that's nice to know.

KP helpfully advised me while I was on hold that they are giving 3rd shots of the COVID vaccine to immunocompromised people. That is also nice to know. I plan to get a booster when/if that is advised in general - heard on the radio that there's a chance a third shot could potentially give people who don't have naturally acquired antibodies something like super-immunity, which is an exciting prospect. I do think I had a mild case way back at the beginning of lock-down, but at the time there were not enough tests available to make testing me seem necessary, and by the time I gave blood and got checked for antibodies that came up negative, so my odds of super-immunity seem low


meara - Sep 10, 2021 10:24:49 am PDT #9103 of 30000

Ok y’all the more I think on it the less I trust this person who did my hair yesterday to fix it in a way I’d like, Tuesday. The pink is very inconsistent. I’m worried that (a) if I try to fade it out it’ll turn peach, and (b) if I go back the person will just dye it darker fuchsia (which I don’t want) to try to cover it more thoroughly. (It’s not just the color—the “haircut” part was not great and they managed to bleach spots on the sides where it was shaved, and had to grab some brown dye to cover that—which I’ve done but I’m not a professional and am working on my own head which limits vision and movement?)

Going back Tuesday is free. I already paid (and tipped) yesterday. Do I just cancel Tuesday and say fuck it? Do I go and hope they can fix and not make worse?


juliana - Sep 10, 2021 10:34:05 am PDT #9104 of 30000
I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I miss them all tonight…

This is why I do my own haircolor. (I have a stylist I trust completely and who I'm sure would do a great job, but...a box of Colorista bleach + tube of dye from Sally's is less than $30. Even if the salon dye job looks great, it's not going to look 10x as great.)

That's me, too. Plus, I know what kind of color I want, and I don't have to try to put it in words to someone else. (Red. No, redder. FAKE red. 40s nail polish red. With a hint of purple. RED.)

meara, I'd go, but I'd be super-clear upfront about what you do and do not want, and ask them if they think they can do that. If they're iffy, then bail.