I'm sorry, Pix. I will just say that people with dementia might not know what the best thing for themselves is and sometimes short-term conflict can result in a long-term good solution. Good luck.

Thanks, Jesse. I know, and once I have the data and support from the neurologist to support that argument, he might be more able to hear that. And if he can't hear it, I will at least have an expert confirming it's needed.

Pix, I'm sorry for you and your dad. We're in a similar situation with Tim's dad, in terms of his cognitive function and not wanting to be in assisted living. It's hard, and there are no easy answers, but you're not alone.

Hugs to you two, too.

It is hard, yes. Love to you all as you deal with this.

Oh, Pix, I’m sorry.

It's so hard. So much sympathy to everyone dealing with this.

Hugs to you, Pix. It's such a rough thing to have to deal with.

I'm sorry, Pix. What a difficult time. The best gift my parents gave my sisters and I is choosing and arranging their own living situation so that we didn't have to make those decisions. They are now in their late 80s, and still in a house in the retirement community but assisted living and nursing and dementia care is part of the deal if they need it.

We get students on Tuesday - my U isn't requiring vaccinations of students, faculty or staff. They are only requiring masks, because the city requires them now that it has significant numbers of new cases. WFH is not allowed, and they took away the 10 extra days of leave meant for people to quarantine in case of a COVID exposure/symptoms. This should be fine, right? I mean, the Dean insisting that all our faculty/committee meetings be held in person because we need to "get back to normal" and "get used to accepting some risk" is a mark of a great leader?

The best gift my parents gave my sisters and I is choosing and arranging their own living situation so that we didn't have to make those decisions. They are now in their late 80s, and still in a house in the retirement community but assisted living and nursing and dementia care is part of the deal if they need it.

Truly, such a gift! It's only one parent, at least. My mom plans to come live with us (we will convert the garage into an 800 sq ft one bedroom apartment) when she needs more help. She doesn't have the money for any kind of long term care, but she won't have any assets by the time she moves out here, and (as I now understand) there's only a two year Medicaid clock when the assets go to moving into a new place. She will be eligible for some in-home Medicaid care when she needs it, and Medicaid will also pay for a nursing home if it gets to that point.

Anyway, Dad is having a good day today and has completely forgotten the fog of yesterday. It's great having him be himself, but it's so hard to get him to understand how confused he is when he's having a bad day. I'm grateful for him being him today, though. It really is a one day at a time situation. We meet with the Medicaid attorney in a couple of hours to make a plan and find out what he's eligible for. One. Day. At. A. Time. Thanks for listening, all.