We'd be dead. Can't get paid if you're dead.

Mal ,'Serenity'


Natter 77: I miss my friends. I miss my enemies. I miss the people I talked to every day.  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Pix - Aug 14, 2021 10:27:39 am PDT #8461 of 30000
We're all getting played with, babe. -Weird Barbie

Thanks, Jesse. I know, and once I have the data and support from the neurologist to support that argument, he might be more able to hear that. And if he can't hear it, I will at least have an expert confirming it's needed.


Steph L. - Aug 14, 2021 11:25:07 am PDT #8462 of 30000
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated

Pix, I'm sorry for you and your dad. We're in a similar situation with Tim's dad, in terms of his cognitive function and not wanting to be in assisted living. It's hard, and there are no easy answers, but you're not alone.


Pix - Aug 14, 2021 11:29:23 am PDT #8463 of 30000
We're all getting played with, babe. -Weird Barbie

Hugs to you two, too.


JenP - Aug 14, 2021 12:32:03 pm PDT #8464 of 30000

It is hard, yes. Love to you all as you deal with this.


-t - Aug 14, 2021 1:04:40 pm PDT #8465 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Oh, Pix, I’m sorry.


Consuela - Aug 14, 2021 1:35:33 pm PDT #8466 of 30000
We are Buffistas. This isn't our first apocalypse. -- Pix

It's so hard. So much sympathy to everyone dealing with this.


Matt the Bruins fan - Aug 14, 2021 4:10:57 pm PDT #8467 of 30000
"I remember when they eventually introduced that drug kingpin who murdered people and smuggled drugs inside snakes and I was like 'Finally. A normal person.'” —RahvinDragand

Hugs to you, Pix. It's such a rough thing to have to deal with.


Sparky1 - Aug 15, 2021 6:06:27 am PDT #8468 of 30000
Librarian Warlord

I'm sorry, Pix. What a difficult time. The best gift my parents gave my sisters and I is choosing and arranging their own living situation so that we didn't have to make those decisions. They are now in their late 80s, and still in a house in the retirement community but assisted living and nursing and dementia care is part of the deal if they need it.

We get students on Tuesday - my U isn't requiring vaccinations of students, faculty or staff. They are only requiring masks, because the city requires them now that it has significant numbers of new cases. WFH is not allowed, and they took away the 10 extra days of leave meant for people to quarantine in case of a COVID exposure/symptoms. This should be fine, right? I mean, the Dean insisting that all our faculty/committee meetings be held in person because we need to "get back to normal" and "get used to accepting some risk" is a mark of a great leader?


Pix - Aug 15, 2021 7:34:26 am PDT #8469 of 30000
We're all getting played with, babe. -Weird Barbie

The best gift my parents gave my sisters and I is choosing and arranging their own living situation so that we didn't have to make those decisions. They are now in their late 80s, and still in a house in the retirement community but assisted living and nursing and dementia care is part of the deal if they need it.

Truly, such a gift! It's only one parent, at least. My mom plans to come live with us (we will convert the garage into an 800 sq ft one bedroom apartment) when she needs more help. She doesn't have the money for any kind of long term care, but she won't have any assets by the time she moves out here, and (as I now understand) there's only a two year Medicaid clock when the assets go to moving into a new place. She will be eligible for some in-home Medicaid care when she needs it, and Medicaid will also pay for a nursing home if it gets to that point.

Anyway, Dad is having a good day today and has completely forgotten the fog of yesterday. It's great having him be himself, but it's so hard to get him to understand how confused he is when he's having a bad day. I'm grateful for him being him today, though. It really is a one day at a time situation. We meet with the Medicaid attorney in a couple of hours to make a plan and find out what he's eligible for. One. Day. At. A. Time. Thanks for listening, all.


sj - Aug 15, 2021 7:41:01 am PDT #8470 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

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