Reporting back on Sonic installation so far: installation did take about two hours, router setup was easy, and all of my devices except one immediately connected to wifi. The remaining device that won't connect is my Windows 10 PC, and if my suspicions are correct, a new wifi adapter will solve the problem. We'll see once the adapter arrives.

but having a lot of coping mechanisms means you have something to cope with

Ha ha, that is very wise and very true. Doing laundry means folding it and putting it away, I must unpack my suitcase immediately, the keys always go on the table, those are The Rules.

And then came auto bill pay, and I suddenly had a mechanism that worked.

Oh, word. Sophia, I would be hosed without auto bill pay and me putting absolutely everything into Google Calendar/Keep/Tasks/Spreadsheets with reminders that constantly prompt me to do things. Or telling myself the order I'm going to do things, and guiding myself back when my brain goes, "Squirrel!" I realize that I'm getting a lot of stuff done right now because I have a deadline (upcoming travel) and external pressure (coworkers telling me my internet was dropping while we were talking), but it would be really nice to just be able to... do things? when we are not on fire?

But I'm finally understanding and accepting that I developed coping mechanism that were based mostly on avoidance

askye, you are crushing it with these truth bombs! Many of my coping mechanisms are still working, but yeah, I recognize they are coping mechanisms and that there are things I'm avoiding that I actually would like to do. I've got "ADHD diagnostic evaluation" on my To Do List and I'm going to ask my doctor about it when I go in for my physical.

Which is another reason I want to try medicine for RSD. I can work through the feeling but not having the feelings or not feeling as strongly means I can use that mental energy for something else.

That does sound exciting and I hope it works out for you!

{{{Dana}}}

I love Clafoutis but I'm way less likely to use megan's recipe because it requires me to go buy cream. Instead I usually use the Joy of Cooking recipe, which is good enough for me.

Clafoutis doesn't judge. All comers are welcome.

It just delights me so that Megan heard the Clafoutis call so quickly!

Oh, word. Sophia, I would be hosed without auto bill pay and me putting absolutely everything into Google Calendar/Keep/Tasks/Spreadsheets with reminders that constantly prompt me to do things.

This is my life. I have Google reminders for the most tiny elements of life. It is a beautiful thing.

Reporting back on Sonic installation so far: installation did take about two hours, router setup was easy, and all of my devices except one immediately connected to wifi. The remaining device that won't connect is my Windows 10 PC, and if my suspicions are correct, a new wifi adapter will solve the problem. We'll see once the adapter arrives.

I loved having Sonic, but it became untenable given that they are never going to put fiber downtown and the fastest download speed I could get was 9 Mbps (which worked for me pre-pandemic, but, between having the Math Greek here for the duration and not being able to download work files at the Mechanics Institute, I'm glad I switched to Comcast when I did).

For sure, my life is half-run by Alexa reminders and timers and Google calendar notices. I always wonder when a list of ADHD symptoms go by, because I identify with a lot of them. But then there are some I absolutely don't identify with, so I end up with Sophia and wondering if "neurotypical" even means anything (aside from any actual medical usage).

I figure I’m already on Wellbutrin which is one of the non stimulant meds they give for ADHD…and I do feel like it helped some in the “actually do those dishes AND finish all of them don’t stop because most of them are done” though obvi not 100% given the dishes currently in my sink…

The thing I have never understood about cherry cladouti—how do the pits not get annoying??

The thing I have never understood about cherry cladouti—how do the pits not get annoying??

Most people (heathens) pit the cherries.

ETA: Personally, I'd rather deal with the pits when eating then pit the cherries.

I always wonder when a list of ADHD symptoms go by, because I identify with a lot of them. But then there are some I absolutely don't identify with, so I end up with Sophia and wondering if "neurotypical" even means anything

I kind of didn't believe my diagnosis until the meds clearly made such a dramatic improvement. Same with depression - I was always thinking "well, those all sound like me except I don't feel sad" when what I mostly felt was numb, so. I have been off all my meds for a while now for economic reasons which is kind of dumb, probably, but also something I can control so, IDK, but it's definitely easier to drop my coping mechanisms and that's not good.

I figure I’m already on Wellbutrin which is one of the non stimulant meds they give for ADHD

...right, I have been on Wellbutrin for almost 10 years. Huh.