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Natter 77: I miss my friends. I miss my enemies. I miss the people I talked to every day.  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Jesse - Mar 16, 2024 8:16:52 am PDT #29195 of 30000
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

It will be terrible no matter what, for sure.

I don't remember the specifics any more but my mother has said there were more kids in my grammar school class with dead parents than divorced parents, and that is so sad.

Restorative weekend is in full swing. I am about to bake my third loaf of bread, have taken the flannel sheets off my bed and done the dishes.


JenP - Mar 16, 2024 8:43:39 am PDT #29196 of 30000

That's a lot to manage, askye, and good on you for actually contacting to doc about your BP.

David, unbelievably hard things to navigate on so many levels.

Restorative weekend sounds like such a a good idea, Jesse! I'm glad it's progressing well. And sounds delicious, I might add.

Guys, I actually put together and baked a lasagna last night. Like a real person who cooks actual food. I mean, basic, and more assembly than creative cooking, but... I didn't order out!

It's a milestone in a year when getting myself to do that basic thing -- make dinner -- has been a challenge, and I've wasted way too much money failing at that.

I'd like to start making a couple things on the weekend to have for the week. Maybe I'll call the lasagne the first thing like that... except we'll be done with it by the weekend. Still, it's a start.


DavidS - Mar 16, 2024 8:57:26 am PDT #29197 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

I'd like to start making a couple things on the weekend to have for the week. Maybe I'll call the lasagne the first thing like that... except we'll bet done with it by the weekend. Still, it's a start.

Making a Sunday meal that you can eat during the week is a great strategy, and it can be fun if you have help in the kitchen (and a glass of wine).

I used to make a frittata every Sunday and have a slice for breakfast all during the week. Made my after run breakfast easy, and it was protein and vegetables with no carbs.

Lasagna is a perfect example of that kind of meal. You can make a pot of chili, or stew.

Traditionally people would make a meal that was designed to turn into leftover meals. Turkey on Sunday became Turkey Tetrazzini by Thursday, or soup or croquets or stir fry etc. You know the drill.

When I was cooking for four, I had a slate of meals I could adapt to the diets or preferences from JZ's vegetarian meals to Emmett's ravenous teen needs. Quesadilla night to the rescue!


Jesse - Mar 16, 2024 9:18:34 am PDT #29198 of 30000
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

Oh jeez, askye, hang in there.

What I like to do is make a pot of something and freeze most of it, vs eating it all week. So then later I have a variety of things to pull out of the freezer. Highlights this week included pumpkin chili and cacio e pepe orzo soup.


Steph L. - Mar 16, 2024 9:22:30 am PDT #29199 of 30000
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated

What I like to do is make a pot of something and freeze most of it, vs eating it all week. So then later I have a variety of things to pull out of the freezer. Highlights this week included pumpkin chili and cacio e pepe orzo soup.

The only way I can do this is to make myself something with meat in it; that way Tim won't yoink it out from under me for a lunch. (We do generally at least ask the other "Hey, can I eat the last of the shepherd's pie/chili/stir fry," but sometimes it just quietly disappears from the fridge.)


lisah - Mar 16, 2024 9:49:02 am PDT #29200 of 30000
Punishingly Intricate

askye, that’s too much. I’m glad you’re working with your doctor to get your bp down. My pcp just upped my bp meds recently and it’s great now! Wish your doctor could prescribe your partner’s Mom not making your home life harder than it need to be.

My medical thing is that I’ve had some exertional chest pain so I got a referral to a cardiologist who ordered a couple of tests, but not a stress test. The echocardiogram and CT scan, plus bloodwork, don’t show any calcium buildup so Yay! But the CT scan shows an aortic anomaly (something I was born with). I’m scheduled for a colonoscopy (no symptoms just about 10 years since my last one) in a couple of months and the anesthesiologist wants me to get a stress test beforehand. Also, my bf the emergency room doctor really thinks I should get a stress test because of the anomaly. But the cardiologist won’t order one for me because he doesn’t think it’s necessary. Argh!! I’m like “is this situation the stress test?!!??”


Jesse - Mar 16, 2024 9:52:22 am PDT #29201 of 30000
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

Argh is right! The anesthesiologist can't order the stress test? I mean, I guess I see where that's outside their lane but if that's who thinks you need it, they should be able to make that happen.


lisah - Mar 16, 2024 10:01:42 am PDT #29202 of 30000
Punishingly Intricate

I guess I can ask if the anesthesiologist can order it. I asked my pcp to order one and she said she couldn’t.


JenP - Mar 16, 2024 10:02:04 am PDT #29203 of 30000

Wish your doctor could prescribe your partner’s Mom not making your home life harder than it need to be.

Oh, my god, that kind of doctor would be BRILLIANT. Why isn't that a thing? That should be a thing.

Loving the meal prep talk -- it's inspiring me. I like the big pot/many different frozen options plan, Jesse. I could work up to that, I think.

And the frittata for the week plan, David. I could alternate with my oatmeal so I don't get bored. I have a habit of mono-eating breakfasts, then, suddenly, I don't want to see oatmeal for months.

It's a gorgeous day out there, but/and I am comfortable and happily reading a book in bed. On the one hand, I've been able to focus on reading an actual book for, like, an hour at least, which is great. On the other hand, am I wasting the nice weather? Eh, I'll take the W for the reading and just enjoy the view for now. I'll have to walk the pup a few times no matter what, so...


JenP - Mar 16, 2024 10:11:27 am PDT #29204 of 30000

Oh, yeah, lisah, I meant to say, I would 100% want the person who is putting me under to get any test they wanted.* Also, wishing you the best getting that all sorted out. It's disconcerting.

  • ( I have decided it's OK for me -- better, actually -- to use "they" when, historically, I would have said "he or she," but the rigid "but this is how I learned it" part of me still exists. I acknowledge that part of me and also slap it down gently now. Go have a lollipop or something. Grammar hasn't t always been a certain way, and it won't stay a certain way. You're a better human this way. It's OK.)