I hate to say this, and obviously see what the lawyer has to say. But I think you might want to consider starting eviction proceedings. This doesn’t feel like a situation that’s going to improve.

And for that matter, I don’t think giving him any more leeway would even be helpful, even if you could do it. Sooner or later, he will have to figure something out.

I hope I’m wrong. And I’m so deeply sorry that this has turned into one more painful thing in this whole awful situation.

shrift, I’m glad to see you’re seeing some progress and feeling optimistic.

Pix, holy shit. You gave him TEN THOUSAND DOLLARS and he is still asking for more from you?? Good god. I do truly feel for him, but you have gone *well* beyond anything he could have reasonably expected from you. I really hope he gets his act together soon and moves on, for his sake and for yours.

What Kate said. JFC. Also what brenda said about eviction, because I really doubt he's going to figure anything out without a huge kick in the pants. He cannot be your problem.

On a lighter note. My org has rec.ently updated "Women in Tech" to "Women Transfemme & Nonbinary" which means I am now getting emails inviting me to "WTFNB" events, which I am unable to see as anything other than What The Fuck, Non-Binary.

That is hilarious

Very cautiously optimistic but prepared for another round of WTFery, which of course means that I've got ants who seem to be coming in near the bathroom. There is no food for you there, ants!

Grrr, ants! But yay, cautious optimism. Here's hoping.

Ugh, I have had ants recently and they are defying the usual bait--they're suddenly loving the dog's food, and he is uninterested enough in food to only want to eat it when he wants to eat it (usually if I am also eating, so he knows it's not a trap and I'm not giving him food so I can LEAVE HIM), and while they haven't been crawling into his bowl, he tends to leave bits of kibble scattered about. BOO ANTS.

Shrift, I will be cautiously optimistic for you and your family. It's so hard.

But. BEST NEWS EVER. After I sent a very stern email to him threatening (nicely) consequences if he didn't get out, he first sent an email today saying it must have been a miscommunication because he didn't intend to squat (again, we are pretty sure he was shitfaced and doesn't remember everything he said)...and then, just a little bit ago, sent an email saying he found a place and is starting to move out tomorrow, planning to be out completely by this weekend. I AM SO RELIEVED.

Pix, that is excellent news! So glad to hear it!

Fuck yeah, Pix!

Wooo!

I audibly exhaled when I read your update, Pix.

Thank dog! Such good news pix.