Pix and ND I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with this. What a nightmare.

Good grief, Pix and ND. I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this on top of everything else. Unreal.

Ugh Pix & ND - you have already gone above and beyond with this. Any way to make J a lawyer's problem instead of yours so at least you don't have to deal with him personally?

On a lighter note. My org has recently updated "Women in Tech" to "Women Transfemme & Nonbinary" which means I am now getting emails inviting me to "WTFNB" events, which I am unable to see as anything other than What The Fuck, Non-Binary.

Fully support going to work What the Fuck events.

Also good grief, Pix and ND. You’ve gone above and beyond and don’t deserve to deal with this. I hope he comes to his senses and realizes you’ve been generous already. Geez.

Oh, Pix, I'm so sorry. How terrible!

Pix, I'm so sorry he's putting you and ND in such a difficult situation.

I am now getting emails inviting me to "WTFNB" events, which I am unable to see as anything other than What The Fuck, Non-Binary.

This is exactly how I interpreted the acronym.

Pix and ND, I really hope that J is more rational today.

I've agreed to let them shoot my hip with cortisone on Thursday morning. I am such a freak when it comes to shots that I am seriously anxious, but the other attempts at painkillers just don't work and give me side effects. PT is going well, but it would be a real bonus if the hip didn't hurt all the time.

my mother has gotten a few cortisone injections...she says they really help.

I think we've made progress on actually getting my dad the short-term things he needs while we try to get him into a sleep study, complicated by the fact that he also tested positive for COVID so his PCP was leery about seeing him in person last week. Have strongly encouraged my mother to stop trying to clean the house and be a potato, but I'm unsure it'll work. (I'm much further along on my journey with the whole "must be productive to justify my existence" thing, but oh my god.)

My siblings are checking to see if they also have sleep apnea, so I may buy a pulse/blood oximeter monitor for myself to check if that's something I also need to be concerned about in our grab-bag of wonky genetics.

Very cautiously optimistic but prepared for another round of WTFery, which of course means that I've got ants who seem to be coming in near the bathroom. There is no food for you there, ants!

It's hard to see and also incredibly upsetting and stressful to deal with.

I don't have any advice, but I can echo everyone else and confirm that you've done so much for J. You've given him money and a long runway, and I wish he was using that energy to figure it out instead of lashing out at you both.

Yes, I meant to say and now realize I didn't, you are not an infinite resource for J to draw upon even if you wanted to try to be. I know it's hard but you absolutely need to be looking out for yourself and what you can handle (financially and emotionally and in any other way you feel stretched or pressured) now