shrift, that's really rough. I wish I had some useful advice. Tons of hairpats headed your way.
Well, look at you. All dressed up in big sister's clothes.
Faith ,'End of Days'
Natter 77: I miss my friends. I miss my enemies. I miss the people I talked to every day.
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
sj - Feb 20, 2024 4:54:47 pm PST #28756 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Calli - Feb 20, 2024 5:05:29 pm PST #28757 of 30000
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
Shrift, that is rough. If none of the siblings are localish to your parents, that makes it even harder.
When my parents had just retired, but before they got really old, Mom used to be a driver for something called “Shepherd’s Center.” She drove people to the store, to appointments, and to social things when they couldn’t drive themselves, often for reasons like your father probably has. It’s church related, but non-denominational. [link] The one I linked to is in the town where they used to live, but several came up when I googled it. Perhaps there’s something similar near your parents? You could try to sell it as “just until the study,” or even “just until the car is replaced,” instead of your dad renting something.
Askye, I hope you feel better and have a chance to pursue your art again soon.
Jesse - Feb 20, 2024 5:19:35 pm PST #28758 of 30000
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
Oh no, shrift, that sounds terrible and scary. I'm sorry.
I keep wanting to complain because I have a cold! And then I talk to literally anyone else.
shrift - Feb 20, 2024 5:24:44 pm PST #28759 of 30000
"You can't put a price on the joy of not giving a shit." -Zenkitty
Thanks, y'all.
If none of the siblings are localish to your parents, that makes it even harder.
My siblings are local and have been going over and offering help, but the problem seems to be getting my parents to accept it. But depending on how things go, something like Shepherd’s Center could be beneficial. Thanks for sharing it!
Steph L. - Feb 20, 2024 5:27:03 pm PST #28760 of 30000
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated
If I had any good advice, my own aging/infirm family member situation would be much betterSame same same. All I got, shrift, is: that's rough, buddy.
Dana - Feb 20, 2024 5:37:53 pm PST #28761 of 30000
"I'm useless alone." // "We're all useless alone. It's a good thing you're not alone."
My siblings are local and have been going over and offering help, but the problem seems to be getting my parents to accept it.
It used to irritate the hell out of my mother that my grandmother ignored something my mother said, but if a doctor said the same thing, it was suddenly gospel. Unfortunately, it doesn't sound like that works on your dead.
I pat your head.
shrift - Feb 20, 2024 5:43:06 pm PST #28762 of 30000
"You can't put a price on the joy of not giving a shit." -Zenkitty
if a doctor said the same thing, it was suddenly gospel
Oh, that works more than anything we say. But part of the problem is that his current doctor is retiring in a week and has both feet out the door.
Pix - Feb 20, 2024 7:39:05 pm PST #28763 of 30000
We're all getting played with, babe. -Weird Barbie
Too close to home to comment, but I'm so sorry, shrift. It's so hard.
aurelia - Feb 20, 2024 7:56:40 pm PST #28764 of 30000
All sorrows can be borne if you put them into a story. Tell me a story.
shrift, would your dad accept help if it were framed in terms of making things easier for your mom? Beyond that... hairpats.
NoiseDesign - Feb 21, 2024 12:37:48 am PST #28765 of 30000
Our wings are not tired
Shrift I’m so sorry. It’s hard. I don’t have magic advice but I have deep empathy for you.