If I had any good advice, my own aging/infirm family member situation would be much betterSame same same. All I got, shrift, is: that's rough, buddy.
Two by two, hands of blue. Two by two, hands of blue.
River ,'Ariel'
Natter 77: I miss my friends. I miss my enemies. I miss the people I talked to every day.
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Steph L. - Feb 20, 2024 5:27:03 pm PST #28760 of 30000
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated
Dana - Feb 20, 2024 5:37:53 pm PST #28761 of 30000
"I'm useless alone." // "We're all useless alone. It's a good thing you're not alone."
My siblings are local and have been going over and offering help, but the problem seems to be getting my parents to accept it.
It used to irritate the hell out of my mother that my grandmother ignored something my mother said, but if a doctor said the same thing, it was suddenly gospel. Unfortunately, it doesn't sound like that works on your dead.
I pat your head.
shrift - Feb 20, 2024 5:43:06 pm PST #28762 of 30000
"You can't put a price on the joy of not giving a shit." -Zenkitty
if a doctor said the same thing, it was suddenly gospel
Oh, that works more than anything we say. But part of the problem is that his current doctor is retiring in a week and has both feet out the door.
Pix - Feb 20, 2024 7:39:05 pm PST #28763 of 30000
We're all getting played with, babe. -Weird Barbie
Too close to home to comment, but I'm so sorry, shrift. It's so hard.
aurelia - Feb 20, 2024 7:56:40 pm PST #28764 of 30000
All sorrows can be borne if you put them into a story. Tell me a story.
shrift, would your dad accept help if it were framed in terms of making things easier for your mom? Beyond that... hairpats.
NoiseDesign - Feb 21, 2024 12:37:48 am PST #28765 of 30000
Our wings are not tired
Shrift I’m so sorry. It’s hard. I don’t have magic advice but I have deep empathy for you.
Beverly - Feb 21, 2024 1:19:18 am PST #28766 of 30000
Days shrink and grow cold, sunlight through leaves is my song. Winter is long.
Hairpats galore, Shrift. It's hellish hard to parent one's parents, especially when they don't want to be parented by a child of theirs.
Calli, hooray for good scans!
Askye, you get hairpats, too. My advice, coming from simply "if it were me" would be to move, as quickly as possible. It's inhuman to expect you to live that way and do your job as well. You're a hero for trying, but everyone just accepts that you'll keep doing it, and nobody's going to change, or implement change in your living conditions, so you have to do it. I send buckets of courage if that's what you decide to do. And if not, then tons of coping~ma.
Thanks for the good wishes, everybody. It's true! Buffistas make things better! (Waves at Karl and msbelle)
sj - Feb 21, 2024 7:08:30 am PST #28767 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
ltc has day camp today at the local art museum and since I’m up and dressed in outside clothes to drop her off, I’m going to stay and enjoy the museum for a bit. Since we’re members it isn’t costing use anything to stay. But first coffee in the lobby! And then probably the gift shop. Forget what I said about not costing me anything.
DavidS - Feb 21, 2024 7:27:47 am PST #28768 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
But first coffee in the lobby! And then probably the gift shop. Forget what I said about not costing me anything.
Money well spent!
Matt the Bruins fan - Feb 21, 2024 7:54:27 am PST #28769 of 30000
"I remember when they eventually introduced that drug kingpin who murdered people and smuggled drugs inside snakes and I was like 'Finally. A normal person.'” —RahvinDragand
Yay Calli!
I'm afraid all I can offer is hairpats, shrift.