Shrift I’m so sorry. It’s hard. I don’t have magic advice but I have deep empathy for you.

Hairpats galore, Shrift. It's hellish hard to parent one's parents, especially when they don't want to be parented by a child of theirs.

Calli, hooray for good scans!

Askye, you get hairpats, too. My advice, coming from simply "if it were me" would be to move, as quickly as possible. It's inhuman to expect you to live that way and do your job as well. You're a hero for trying, but everyone just accepts that you'll keep doing it, and nobody's going to change, or implement change in your living conditions, so you have to do it. I send buckets of courage if that's what you decide to do. And if not, then tons of coping~ma.

Thanks for the good wishes, everybody. It's true! Buffistas make things better! (Waves at Karl and msbelle)

ltc has day camp today at the local art museum and since I’m up and dressed in outside clothes to drop her off, I’m going to stay and enjoy the museum for a bit. Since we’re members it isn’t costing use anything to stay. But first coffee in the lobby! And then probably the gift shop. Forget what I said about not costing me anything.

But first coffee in the lobby! And then probably the gift shop. Forget what I said about not costing me anything.

Money well spent!

Yay Calli!

I'm afraid all I can offer is hairpats, shrift.

Oh no, shrift! I wish I had advice, but you are welcome to sympathetic hairpats by the bucketful.

Ugh shrift that sounds frustrating as hell.

Also frustrating sounding: askye’s living situation.

Also frustrating: my headache this morning.

Sj the museum sounds nice!

I found some great Easter basket items at the museum shop for ltc and my nieces. And maybe a couple things for me… ltc has passed me twice while her class explored the museum and amazingly she was excited and not embarrassed.

Meara, we are very lucky to have such a nice museum nearby. There’s actually another nice one not far from us that we’re not members of but we should try to get back there too.

I am grateful that I didn't have to do late life care for my parents.

My dad didn't suffer dementia, but had a run of serious health issues including macular deterioration which made him functionally blind and dependent for his last couple years.

On the one hand, I didn't inherit his house when he died because he had remarried. On the other hand, his wife totally deserved it because she did everything taking care of him in his last years.

My niece, Crystal, was the sole caregiver of my sister during her cancer care, over three years. Which was incredibly difficult and draining as a single mother of two with a full time job.

I'm glad I've been able to give her a break since then and support her during a career change. (She's learning how to be a grant writer after 20 years of being a nurse.)

It strikes me that at the first F2F we all lined up to get our butts spanked, and now we're all lining up to give shrift hairpats.

We've evolved as a community.