Hey, have we heard from Sophia lately?
I may be love's bitch, but at least I'm man enough to admit it.
Spike ,'Sleeper'
Natter 77: I miss my friends. I miss my enemies. I miss the people I talked to every day.
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Dana - Jan 22, 2024 5:04:36 pm PST #28164 of 30000
"I'm useless alone." // "We're all useless alone. It's a good thing you're not alone."
-t - Jan 22, 2024 5:24:40 pm PST #28165 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
The Director of engineering intoned at one point, "They dishonor our vampire queen".
Oh, that’s so great! So glad they appreciate you!
-t - Jan 22, 2024 5:37:19 pm PST #28166 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
It’s been a minute, Dana. Messenger shows her as “active” earlier today but I’m not sure where to look for her to confirm…
Laura - Jan 22, 2024 6:20:55 pm PST #28167 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.
Yes, been a bit. I'll go ahead and send an email.
Pix - Jan 22, 2024 7:44:02 pm PST #28168 of 30000
We're all getting played with, babe. -Weird Barbie
We could use a piece of good news, right? My friend T, the one who was with me almost every day when my dad was dying, helped find a temporary foster for my dad'd beloved dog Sunny...and they want to adopt him permanently! It's a loving home with T's friend, who works from home four days a way, his live-in girlfriend (who doesn't work and loves animals more than people), 7 and 11 year-old kids, his mom (former animal rescuer who lives in the back house), a giant doofus of a dog named Tank, and a bunch of cats who are not scared of dogs. They have a HUGE (like, an acre) fenced yard, and apparently Sunny has been happy and EATING (he barely ate for two weeks when Dad was in the hospital), and the kids are in love with him. Friends, it's a perfect home for him. And I'll still get to visit him.
Susan W. - Jan 22, 2024 7:53:44 pm PST #28169 of 30000
Good Trouble and Righteous Fights
That's wonderful news, Pix!
-t - Jan 22, 2024 8:22:23 pm PST #28170 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Oh, that is such good news, Pix! So glad to hear it!
DavidS - Jan 22, 2024 10:15:42 pm PST #28171 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
Friends, it's a perfect home for him. And I'll still get to visit him.
That's fantastic! I still think about Ginger's dog, Mr. Peabody, who I got to meet.
so glad Matilda is at a place to join, and that's a beautiful way to phrase it -- knitting a new way to be together
I remember the exact moment my Dad told me I couldn't cuddle with him anymore before bedtime. I was like...6? And it felt shitty.
So when we had Emmett I decided, "I'll let him let him decide. I'll always hug him but I'll respect his space and physical person. But I won't turn him away if he wants to get in my lap." Which he did until he was bigger than me and kind of crushing me.
And with a teenage girl, I'm even more conscious of letting her set the boundaries.
It's not a super common occurrence but three or four times a year she'll come stand over me and it's clear I'm to make a space for her and she wants to get in my lap.
Last night she did that and she said, "You know, I'm probably not going to get any bigger so I'll always fit on your lap so can I do that whenever?"
And I said, "That sounds about right, so whenever you need to go ahead."
She gave a little Victory fist pump, like it was something she had been worried about.
That was sweet.
Tonight she came up to me in my reading chair and said, "I need a hug."
This was clearly a standing hug request. So we hugged and it was a long, strong hug and when we pulled back she gave me such a rueful look. Just full of the fucked up sadness of losing Jacqueline and knowing/trusting that I also felt that.
Cass - Jan 22, 2024 10:32:46 pm PST #28172 of 30000
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
(Not gonna lie -- I've so appreciated reading people's kind comments about my questions there and most recently, too. That really gives me a warm fuzzy, you guys, and makes me feel useful... which, who doesn't love that? [Even though I don't have actual answers.] So, thanks for saying.)
You ask *amazing* questions. They are quality and insightful. Next big unknown, I am asking what your questions are. Because they are insightful and quality. Like I said.
...and they want to adopt him permanently!That is fantastic! I am thrilled for them, Sunny and your Dad because he loved Sunny so much. And dogs understand, to whatever extent, death. Sunny can go and have new family knowing how much they were loved and loved in return.
Steph L. - Jan 23, 2024 6:24:41 am PST #28173 of 30000
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated
Friends, it's a perfect home for him. And I'll still get to visit him.
Great news for Sunny! I'm so glad to hear that.
I woke up with a burst blood vessel in my right eye, which has no other symptoms, so I got a surprise when I looked in the mirror. The white of my eye is entirely blood red. I look kind of freaky but also kind of badass. (Pinkeye is pretty different-looking from a burst blood vessel; pinkeye is not this very dark red. I mean, if I develop any other symptoms, I'll call the doctor, but I think I just sneezed or coughed too hard and my delicate baby blood vessel went kablooey.)