Yay no alarms and seeing family, Nilly!!

I've been having little phantom limb pangs of wanting to talk to JZ about this or that or just missing her.

Awww yeah. I hear that.

you'll stop worrying quite so much about your body weight/shape and your new obsession will be "What's Wrong With My Skin?!"

Hahah yes I am definitely finding with weight loss I’m suddenly understanding the “feel bad about my neck” thing more. Hoping I don’t have to go through some of the more painful onerous skin cancer bits you have though, speaking of skin! But I should make a derm appointment, it’s been a few years.

And I feel for Matilda. Friendship breakups are so damn hard. I have a couple people who used to be bestest friends and for a variety of reasons they’ve really been pulling away and it sucks a lot. Plus another ex good friend who married the girlfriend I hated (after they broke up! But then they got back together) and now we don’t talk and it makes me sad.

Tim is insisting on calling the repair guy, but I think it's optimistic. That dryer is potentially 30 years old. I'm happy getting a new one.

An old dryer, sadly, is more likely to be fixable than a new one. We were able to keep our old dryer going until the motor finally gave out, at which point, it would have cost more to repair than replace. Though I liked the old one better.

(Sadly, the washing machine that I hate was yet again fixable at home with a $20 part, so my expensive dream of replacing it was once more thwarted. We'd even ordered the replacement this time before P looked up possible causes and went, "AHA! I can actually fix this." So we cancelled the replacement, and I'm stuck with my nemesis.)

Tim is insisting on calling the repair guy, but I think it's optimistic. That dryer is potentially 30 years old. I'm happy getting a new one.

An old dryer, sadly, is more likely to be fixable than a new one. We were able to keep our old dryer going until the motor finally gave out, at which point, it would have cost more to repair than replace.

We had a repair guy out yesterday, and it *is* the motor, but putting in a new motor is still cheaper than buying a new dryer (although not by much once you add in labor), and Tim is really committed to repairing rather than buying new, so I'm just along for the ride.

(I'm slightly ready to stab him because we decided we were going to a park to hike [walk on a flat paved trail] today, and then he insisted he HAD to shower before we go, and his showers take like 45 minutes, and it's almost 3 pm here and with the time change it is seriously going to get dark by the time we start hiking. And I did in fact say that out loud to him, but he was like, nah, it won't take that long. We are going to by god go fucking hiking [walking on a flat paved trail] today even if we have to do it in the pitch fucking dark. At this point I'm going to do it out of spite even if I don't have a good time.)

He is STILL in the bathroom. I keep hearing the sink taps turn on briefly and off again, over and over. What in the actual fuck is happening. Like, if he doesn't want to go hiking [walking on a flat paved trail] he can just say so and I will go by myself because the weather is too nice to waste.

(It's *possible* that I'm cranky and stabby because I both got my period today and am fighting a migraine, but I was still planning on hiking despite those things because I hate to waste a sunny 61-degree day when it's November and we probably aren't going to get many more -- if any -- of these.)

Oh my god, we’re actually about to leave.

Friendship breakups are so damn hard. I have a couple people who used to be bestest friends and for a variety of reasons they’ve really been pulling away and it sucks a lot.

It truly does.

Plus another ex good friend who married the girlfriend I hated (after they broke up! But then they got back together) and now we don’t talk and it makes me sad.

See that one kinda feels like a betrayal. Your job after a break up is to validate your friend's negative feelings about their ex. So unfair of them to reunite and you get pushed aside!

I hope you had a good hike, Steph.

See that one kinda feels like a betrayal. Your job after a break up is to validate your friend's negative feelings about their ex.

Yeah the problem is that I believe her wife is a sociopath or something. There was a LOT of lying straight to peoples faces and then manipulating and it was really gross and I think she is just deluding herself if she thinks it won’t happen again. And I hate that for her. And she knows it and is uncomfortable (Also hard to hang out since they’re in another city and so it’s usually see both or see neither)

I hope you had a good hike, Steph.

We actually hiked while it was light out, so that was nice. Paved trail, mostly flat, winds near a big lake, so very pretty. Tim sets the timer on his phone for 15 minutes and we walk until the timer goes off and then turn around and go back -- it was about 1.5 miles total. He didn't use his cane -- he's pretty much done with it.

Since I'm the one who tells people to seek medical care when needed, I am confessing right here that I managed to bonk my head on the open car trunk when we were leaving. Obviously it hurt, but I didn't have any concerning symptoms (also, I had a pre-existing migraine, so "head pain" is hard to gauge). So we hiked, and I was fine, no dizziness, no trouble walking at normal speed. When we got home, Tim looked at my pupils and said one was larger than the other; I looked in the mirror, and it sure is.

That's my only concerning symptom, so rather than hit up the ER, I am in the queue for a telehealth appointment through a service our insurance has. I'm 99.9% sure my noggin is fine, but I just want to be sure. I definitely will go to the ER if the telehealth clinician thinks I need to go, but it's probably just a minor bonk on the ol' head.

The telehealth doctor said nothing I described is a red flag to her, but since she couldn't see me physically, she said going to Urgent Care is probably a good idea, and yeah, that's true. So I'm eating some leftover pizza and then Tim will drive me up there.

She did say that sometimes people can get different-sized pupils with a migraine, although my quick googling tells me that means it's a super bad migraine, and today's migraine doesn't fall in that category. It's interesting, though.