Hmm. It's sounds like the finest party I can imagine getting paid to go to.

Mal ,'Shindig'


Natter 77: I miss my friends. I miss my enemies. I miss the people I talked to every day.  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Steph L. - Nov 05, 2023 12:06:15 pm PST #26615 of 30000
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated

He is STILL in the bathroom. I keep hearing the sink taps turn on briefly and off again, over and over. What in the actual fuck is happening. Like, if he doesn't want to go hiking [walking on a flat paved trail] he can just say so and I will go by myself because the weather is too nice to waste.

(It's *possible* that I'm cranky and stabby because I both got my period today and am fighting a migraine, but I was still planning on hiking despite those things because I hate to waste a sunny 61-degree day when it's November and we probably aren't going to get many more -- if any -- of these.)


Steph L. - Nov 05, 2023 12:30:02 pm PST #26616 of 30000
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated

Oh my god, we’re actually about to leave.


DavidS - Nov 05, 2023 12:37:14 pm PST #26617 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

Friendship breakups are so damn hard. I have a couple people who used to be bestest friends and for a variety of reasons they’ve really been pulling away and it sucks a lot.

It truly does.

Plus another ex good friend who married the girlfriend I hated (after they broke up! But then they got back together) and now we don’t talk and it makes me sad.

See that one kinda feels like a betrayal. Your job after a break up is to validate your friend's negative feelings about their ex. So unfair of them to reunite and you get pushed aside!


Dana - Nov 05, 2023 1:38:33 pm PST #26618 of 30000
"I'm useless alone." // "We're all useless alone. It's a good thing you're not alone."

I hope you had a good hike, Steph.


meara - Nov 05, 2023 2:05:58 pm PST #26619 of 30000

See that one kinda feels like a betrayal. Your job after a break up is to validate your friend's negative feelings about their ex.

Yeah the problem is that I believe her wife is a sociopath or something. There was a LOT of lying straight to peoples faces and then manipulating and it was really gross and I think she is just deluding herself if she thinks it won’t happen again. And I hate that for her. And she knows it and is uncomfortable (Also hard to hang out since they’re in another city and so it’s usually see both or see neither)


Steph L. - Nov 05, 2023 3:10:02 pm PST #26620 of 30000
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated

I hope you had a good hike, Steph.

We actually hiked while it was light out, so that was nice. Paved trail, mostly flat, winds near a big lake, so very pretty. Tim sets the timer on his phone for 15 minutes and we walk until the timer goes off and then turn around and go back -- it was about 1.5 miles total. He didn't use his cane -- he's pretty much done with it.

Since I'm the one who tells people to seek medical care when needed, I am confessing right here that I managed to bonk my head on the open car trunk when we were leaving. Obviously it hurt, but I didn't have any concerning symptoms (also, I had a pre-existing migraine, so "head pain" is hard to gauge). So we hiked, and I was fine, no dizziness, no trouble walking at normal speed. When we got home, Tim looked at my pupils and said one was larger than the other; I looked in the mirror, and it sure is.

That's my only concerning symptom, so rather than hit up the ER, I am in the queue for a telehealth appointment through a service our insurance has. I'm 99.9% sure my noggin is fine, but I just want to be sure. I definitely will go to the ER if the telehealth clinician thinks I need to go, but it's probably just a minor bonk on the ol' head.


Steph L. - Nov 05, 2023 3:39:50 pm PST #26621 of 30000
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated

The telehealth doctor said nothing I described is a red flag to her, but since she couldn't see me physically, she said going to Urgent Care is probably a good idea, and yeah, that's true. So I'm eating some leftover pizza and then Tim will drive me up there.

She did say that sometimes people can get different-sized pupils with a migraine, although my quick googling tells me that means it's a super bad migraine, and today's migraine doesn't fall in that category. It's interesting, though.


meara - Nov 05, 2023 5:19:11 pm PST #26622 of 30000

Yikes Teppy. Don’t secretly have a brain bleed please. Take care of yourself. Different sized pupils is a bit scary.


Dana - Nov 05, 2023 5:22:41 pm PST #26623 of 30000
"I'm useless alone." // "We're all useless alone. It's a good thing you're not alone."

Clearly time to break out the bubble wrap.


DavidS - Nov 05, 2023 5:27:57 pm PST #26624 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

Car trunks are dangerous! After I had my Moh's procedure I leaned into the back of the car and caught the door edge right into the wound. So painful!