I have no caftan, but I do have a silk house dress that belonged to Ginger's mom (I think) that I love. I'll wear that.

I have no caftan, but I do have a silk house dress that belonged to Ginger's mom (I think) that I love. I'll wear that.

That works!

So just talked to my niece who's with my sister in Northern Georgia.

I've booked a flight to Atlanta next Thursday. Spend the night, and drive up to McCaysville Friday. Spend Friday and Saturday with my sister, and then drive back to Atlanta early on Sunday and fly back to SF.

Not really what I wanted to do two weeks after my wife's death, but needs must.

David, that’s so hard. I wish it weren’t so, but like you say, need must.

It’s fucking too much now, but you won’t regret later. But it’s still fucking too much.

But it’s still fucking too much.

It fucking is!

On top of all this I have to schedule Jacqueline's church service funeral but I don't want it to land on (or near) Emmett & Matilda's birthdays (9/23 and 9/26 respectively).

But my MiL isn't available the first week of October, so...halfway to Halloween or something.

There's no way I'm putting her funeral anywhere near our kids birthdays though.

Oof. Yeah, no. Your & their future Augusts will weigh heavy enough.

It’s sorry, sad, STUPID calendar & heart math.

Ugh that is so tough David.

I am all for caftans and crowns. I didn’t even go dancing tonight because I looked at the clock at 730 (dancing is 8-10) and the thought of taking a shower and figuring out clothes and walking there all felt like too much.

All this talk of tiaras. I think I sent JZ a tiara during our tiara exchange. It had red stones, and the metal was kind of dark.

David, it's all so much. Please, friend, take care of yourself, too. I hope you have a good visit with your sister, and that you can find a good date for Jacqueline's funeral. The kids might want you to keep the services far from their birthdays, but they might surprise you and want the opposite. If you haven't already, talk to them about it. It's really hard to schedule everything, because it seems too final. But (and I know you already know this), sometimes doing all the things we do to mark a profound loss like this actually helps us choke it down.

Matilda and Emmett may make it easier than it seems in your mind right now.

(Signed, my Grampy died the day before my birthday, which was my dad and his late twin's birthday. My grandmother died on her birthday, which was Mother's Day. My other grandmother died right before Christmas. It's always sudden sucky.)

But (and I know you already know this), sometimes doing all the things we do to mark a profound loss like this actually helps us choke it down.

Yes. I'm sorry that you have to juggle so much when you have so little emotional energy fuel.

Listening to Breakfast of Champions now. I almost always forget on Friday morning, but catch it over the weekend at times.

Morning. Or timelies, I guess.

The admin bs after a death is truly a miserable grind. And again, so sorry about your sister.

I’m sorry about your sister, especially on top of everything else, David.

I do not have a caftan. But several months ago I bought what’s essentially a heavy t-shirt that just keeps going until it’s a maxi dress. I wore it twice, realized I wanted to wear it several times when it was in the dirty clothes hamper, and bought myself two more. Most comfortable item of clothing I own, and looks moderately dressy.