All this talk of tiaras. I think I sent JZ a tiara during our tiara exchange. It had red stones, and the metal was kind of dark.

David, it's all so much. Please, friend, take care of yourself, too. I hope you have a good visit with your sister, and that you can find a good date for Jacqueline's funeral. The kids might want you to keep the services far from their birthdays, but they might surprise you and want the opposite. If you haven't already, talk to them about it. It's really hard to schedule everything, because it seems too final. But (and I know you already know this), sometimes doing all the things we do to mark a profound loss like this actually helps us choke it down.

Matilda and Emmett may make it easier than it seems in your mind right now.

(Signed, my Grampy died the day before my birthday, which was my dad and his late twin's birthday. My grandmother died on her birthday, which was Mother's Day. My other grandmother died right before Christmas. It's always sudden sucky.)

But (and I know you already know this), sometimes doing all the things we do to mark a profound loss like this actually helps us choke it down.

Yes. I'm sorry that you have to juggle so much when you have so little emotional energy fuel.

Listening to Breakfast of Champions now. I almost always forget on Friday morning, but catch it over the weekend at times.

Morning. Or timelies, I guess.

The admin bs after a death is truly a miserable grind. And again, so sorry about your sister.

I’m sorry about your sister, especially on top of everything else, David.

I do not have a caftan. But several months ago I bought what’s essentially a heavy t-shirt that just keeps going until it’s a maxi dress. I wore it twice, realized I wanted to wear it several times when it was in the dirty clothes hamper, and bought myself two more. Most comfortable item of clothing I own, and looks moderately dressy.

At the sports med clinic. Just got X-rays done. Waiting to see doc.

Ooo, t-shirt dresses are great. I actually lump caftans, muumuus, and all that stuff under “caftan lifestyle.” Any comfy floaty dress, really.

Comfy, floaty dress is my favorite thing. I'm more than ready for the caftan portion of the program.

Good luck on the X-rays, smonster.

Me and the "children" are going to PA Renfaire, which I've never been to. I intend to raise a glass in JZ's honor, possibly more than once.

I essentially wear a dressy caftan every single day to work. Everyone thinks I am dressy, and I am basically wearing a nightgown.

We have a venerated programmer, Bob, who wears the exact same red shirt, black pants, and hat every day. WFH, summer heat, etc. (We love Bob). I think they mat be exactly the same clothes he had in the seventies/eighties. I was trying to explain to a “frolleague” that Bob and are are so much alike, with the example that I too wear the same exact thing every single day, it is just one particular style of dress in many colors and patterns, a scarf, and flip flops or boots. When I first met him, I knew we would be friends, but he is so shy and I am so awkward that we didn’t really connect until we worked with this lovely woman who is like an extroverted ball of energy who brings all the awkward shy people under her wing and gets them to do stuff. She has now left the University and we are kind of bereft, so now we meet every Friday to work on our program but we just sort of go in aimless circles because neither of us can bring the “get it done” energy to it.

Ooo, t-shirt dresses are great. I actually lump caftans, muumuus, and all that stuff under “caftan lifestyle.” Any comfy floaty dress, really.

I wear t-shirt dresses from late spring through early fall. They're the best. One with pockets are perfect.

I am wearing a t-shirt dress with a pocket right now AIFG