I hope she has people who are further removed from this particular grief who can step up and love her through this.

She's moved to Portland to be near Jacqueline's brother, Chris, and his family (with two kids). And her other son, Lukas and his husband, TJ, have also moved to Portland. So she's not isolated in Reno as she was before.

The best advice I received was from my sister who told me to cry in the shower.

Matilda knows this trick and was using it yesterday.

She told me she's going back to school next Wednesday. Monday is labor day, and Tuesday is her therapy day. Then she will be ready to face humans again.

So she's not isolated in Reno as she was before.

That is good to hear.

She told me she's going back to school next Wednesday.

Oh boy, I know it is going to be tough with so many expressing their sympathy. I hope she is able to take breaks to cry and rest between all the peopling .

JZ's bestie Lisa came in and the mood shifted, and the Sacred Circle of Loving Women started drinking and crying and laughing and wearing Jacqueline's hats and...it's what we needed. It's what Matilda needed especially.

Oh, I'm so glad this happened!

can see Greece from our balcony on a clear day. I hope today is the clearest ever. Regardless, I’ll be getting flowers later and letting them go in the sea so that a memory of Jacqueline reaches the shores of the beloved country that she couldn’t visit as often as she wanted.

That's so lovely, Maria.

Off topic, but thinking about how long David and JZ were together before they were married made me wonder exactly how old we are, as a community. Maybe it would be easier to note the birth of this incarnation of the board?

I hope that’s the way it is, Nilly.

I’m so glad JZ has that Sacred Circle of Loving Women to be there for her girl now and for you, David. And I’m so sorry to hear about your sister.

JZ's bestie Lisa came in and the mood shifted, and the Sacred Circle of Loving Women started drinking and crying and laughing and wearing Jacqueline's hats and...it's what we needed. It's what Matilda needed especially.

Very thankful that they were present to release that emotional pressure valve.

Christ, I can’t imagine dealing with death without laughter.

One of the joys of the days immediately after Dad passed away was telling his younger brother tales he hadn’t heard of the older siblings’ childhood shenanigans. Bricks and snakes were thrown, cats were rubbed with liniment, switch trees were chopped down and burned while their parents were gone for the day...

Maybe it would be easier to note the birth of this incarnation of the board?

Per the Nilly calendar - May 19, 1997 - founding of first Buffy board
September 17, 2002 - The Phoenix official birthday
June 10, 2003 - The big server move

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Christ, I can’t imagine dealing with death without laughter.

In the first two hours of my grandfather's Shiva we were subjected to an unprompted hour long lecture from a relative on the extermly fascinating subject, "aircraft evecuation protocols when one discovers smoke in the aircraft".

30 minutes in, when it was clear that he was not going to stop, I whispered to my sister "so you thought that the funeral was the difficult part?". Which some people heard, and they repeate this to me to this day.

But in all honesty, the man just wouldn't shut up.

Shir, that's hilarious.

At my grandfather's funeral, as the minister or whatever he was droned on and extolled his virtues one of my aunts leaned over and whispered to the rest, "Are we sure he's talking about Dad?" and a quiet snicker was had.

(My maternal grandfather was a miserable SOB.)