Consuela said everything I was thinking.
Funny thing about black and white. You mix it together and you get gray. And it doesn't matter how much white you try and put back in, you're never gonna get anything but gray.
Lilah ,'Destiny'
Natter 77: I miss my friends. I miss my enemies. I miss the people I talked to every day.
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Atropa - Aug 30, 2023 9:26:00 pm PDT #24807 of 30000
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
DavidS - Aug 30, 2023 9:33:22 pm PDT #24808 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
I ululated while listening to Welcome to the Black Parade, driving across Lake Pontchartrain, at sunset.
Fist pump of appreciation!
Turns out my MiL storming out in a rage was the best thing that has happened to me in months.
Because, JZ's bestie Lisa came in and the mood shifted, and the Sacred Circle of Loving Women started drinking and crying and laughing and wearing Jacqueline's hats and...it's what we needed. It's what Matilda needed especially.
Which would not have happened with Sunny here.
I'll share pictures but just on the Buffistas group because my MiL must never see people laughing.
sarameg - Aug 30, 2023 9:44:22 pm PDT #24809 of 30000
Oh love. I’m glad you have them.
Nilly - Aug 30, 2023 9:48:17 pm PDT #24810 of 30000
Swouncing
So much of my love, my sorrow - all my emotions - is with you right now.
I read more than a hunderd messages all at once, so I was grateful to get to the end and see that the last post has laughter in it, and Matilda surrounded by that affection and tears and laughter, letting her just feel what she feels and know that it's OK.
No, it's more than OK. In that same post with the ululating, JZ wrote that laughter through the mandatory tears is encouraged.
Well, ululating here is associated with expressions of happiness, and I anyway can't do it, so I'll laugh through my tears as best I can.
Also, what Suela said.
[Edit: also, I'm here through all of your night, thanks to the different timezones. If there's anything I can do while the world around you is sleeping, please let me know.]
sarameg - Aug 30, 2023 9:55:11 pm PDT #24811 of 30000
Ice packs with the ululating recommended. Because.
(Hi, Nilly!)
juliana - Aug 30, 2023 9:56:42 pm PDT #24812 of 30000
I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I miss them all tonight…
JZ's bestie Lisa came in and the mood shifted, and the Sacred Circle of Loving Women started drinking and crying and laughing and wearing Jacqueline's hats and...it's what we needed. It's what Matilda needed especially.
That is so good to hear. I'm so happy that Lisa was able to help shift the mood & that you & Matilda got what you needed.
Nilly - Aug 30, 2023 10:00:06 pm PDT #24813 of 30000
Swouncing
Hi, sarameg! It never fails to be good to see you, even just the words-on-a-screen you.
[Edit: Hi, juliana!]
EpicTangent - Aug 30, 2023 10:00:55 pm PDT #24814 of 30000
Why isn't everyone pelting me with JOY, dammit? - Zenkitty
Bless Lisa once again! That sounds perfect.
-t - Aug 30, 2023 10:03:43 pm PDT #24815 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Good job, Lisa! Grieving alongside a MiL is a tough dynamic.
sarameg - Aug 30, 2023 10:07:22 pm PDT #24816 of 30000
I mean, all I’ve been is words on a screen here to most!
But this is all very real to me. Even when I’m not here much anymore. We grew up together, so many ways.
Anyway, as I crash towards bed, know I treasure this.