All my love, ZMayhems
Oh, I wish those council guys would let me have an hour alone in the room with her, if I was larger and had grenades.
Willow ,'Storyteller'
Natter 77: I miss my friends. I miss my enemies. I miss the people I talked to every day.
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
-t - Aug 02, 2023 2:20:44 pm PDT #23446 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Hil R. - Aug 02, 2023 2:38:20 pm PDT #23447 of 30000
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
So much love to David, JZ, and your family.
meara - Aug 02, 2023 3:09:56 pm PDT #23448 of 30000
Oh man. I’m so sorry to hear the news JZ and David. That is so sad and unfortunate. I hope stopping means some quality of life improvements for a bit at least but jeez.
lisah - Aug 02, 2023 3:16:50 pm PDT #23449 of 30000
Punishingly Intricate
Sending so much love your way, zmayhems
Sheryl - Aug 02, 2023 4:17:02 pm PDT #23450 of 30000
Fandom means never having to say "But where would I wear that?"
Timelies all!
Hugs and ~ma to all who need/want them.
Yesterday was Gary and my anniversary(19 years!) so we went out to dinner. Went to a Latin American restaurant we had been to before. Food was good(although I now know I don't like pork belly-never tried it before) and plentiful.
Cass - Aug 02, 2023 4:41:01 pm PDT #23451 of 30000
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
Jacqueline, I wish as much good time as possible for you and yours.
Amy - Aug 02, 2023 4:53:19 pm PDT #23452 of 30000
Because books.
All my love to the house of Zmayhem, and hopes for as much peace and joy (and food! and drink!) as possible.
Kate P. - Aug 02, 2023 6:07:12 pm PDT #23453 of 30000
That's the pain / That cuts a straight line down through the heart / We call it love
Oh no. Oh, Zmayhems. I'm sending so much love to you all.
sarameg - Aug 02, 2023 8:34:47 pm PDT #23454 of 30000
Wishing you whatever you need. This sucks.
(I’m not really here these days. But if you need therapeutic cat pics, you know where to find me.)
DavidS - Aug 02, 2023 9:18:44 pm PDT #23455 of 30000
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
Thank you, all.
I am hoping that in a few weeks she feels better from being off the chemo, and we have some time.
I spent a good chunk of yesterday calling Jacqueline's mother and brothers and other family members to give them the news. And I was okay doing that.
But posting it here was what made it real and the copious tears happened.
We would make every effort to give her the slimmest chance. But I'm also relieved to not push her through this wringer any longer. It has been brutalizing.
But she is still here, and I'm grateful for that. I'm grateful for now because she's still here.
The eating has not come back yet but she slept well, and because her computer is having stupid problems, she spent a good chunk of the day on her Kindle and I think that might have been a blessing.
Take a second to revel in every day's mundane pleasures. Enjoy every sandwich, as Warren Zevon said.
One thing I said to Jacqueline (which was not the softest soap, but the truth I thought that was useful) was that she was not singled out by some awful fate to die. We will all die. Her mother will die. I will die. Her daughter will grow old and die. Her daughter's daughter will die.
Our culture is very bad at dealing with death. Or, it knows how to commodify it but it doesn't know how to weave it into the fabric of our lives.
We all have, as Neil Gaiman pointed out, a lifetime.
Let us all wake up in the morning, announce what we had for breakfast, and move into our days.