Hey have I told you all about the Ask A Manager level weirdness going on at my work? My boss (40m, started September) and same-level colleague (30something f, started January) have developed the kind of close relationship at work that leads to things like staff coming to me and remarking “I walked into the break room when they were eating lunch and it felt like I was interrupting a date.” People, the vibes are so weird. Are they actually having an affair? She has a 6 month old so I cannot personally imagine having the energy and honestly I don’t evebcare but the vibes alone are a workplace problem. I’ve thought it through and there’s no place to take this issue safely but I hate it so much.
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flea - Mar 28, 2023 12:49:09 pm PDT #21373 of 30000
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Trudy Booth - Mar 28, 2023 12:55:27 pm PDT #21374 of 30000
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meara - Mar 28, 2023 1:43:00 pm PDT #21375 of 30000
Wow that is awkward, flea! Could someone maybe talk to him, and say something about it (maybe not "it's date like" but like "the closeness is concerning for other staff and their opportunities to work closely with you/advance their career/work on special projects/whatever")? Or talk to her and let her know even if it's totally innocent the vibe is misleading? Not sure but how awkward.
Laga - Mar 28, 2023 2:03:59 pm PDT #21376 of 30000
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could it be a "work spouse" situaton where it's not romantic but they're on the same wavelength when it comes to work?
-t - Mar 28, 2023 2:19:57 pm PDT #21377 of 30000
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Oh my, flea. Whether y'all are background characters in a rom com or potential witnesses to a lawsuit or just up to your neck in gossip that sounds really uncomfortable!
flea - Mar 28, 2023 2:29:47 pm PDT #21378 of 30000
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I don’t feel safe speaking to either of them, and the people I could speak to to convey the message on (director and HR person) also do not feel safe.
I doubt they’re dating; I think they’ve trauma bonded and are new besties. But even that is a problem because 1) he’s her boss 2) she’s having trouble establishing her authority with her department 3) the vibes and optics are just so bad. I’ve had work besties but I tell you what I never ate off the same plate with them at lunch.
Laura - Mar 28, 2023 2:31:05 pm PDT #21379 of 30000
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Ick, flea. I hope it is just work coziness. I know that the comfort level of co-workers can look like more than it is. I really hope that is the case.
askye - Mar 28, 2023 2:31:19 pm PDT #21380 of 30000
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-t - Mar 28, 2023 2:40:43 pm PDT #21381 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Oh, he's her boss and your boss? I totally misread that before. Oh no. I'm really sorry there isn't anyone for you to go to, that's awful.
askye - Mar 28, 2023 2:45:36 pm PDT #21382 of 30000
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Flea that is a weird vibe. I feel like this is a Ask A Manager post where everyone wants an update. I hope for your sake that one of them comes to their senses and stops before it becomes a major thing.
As I was leaving today M was like "have fun on your playdate," .. but I did have fun. My crafty friend (whose name also starts with a M) has sooo much crafting stuff. Seriously I think she has as much stuff as the recraft store. We struggled to figure out one technique but had fun. Hit some thrift stores. Had lunch, and she jad several boxes of stuff to donate so she let me pull what I wanted.
And she plays DnD. Her husband was DMing but they lost their group. So they are thinking of starting up again.