Oh, he's her boss and your boss? I totally misread that before. Oh no. I'm really sorry there isn't anyone for you to go to, that's awful.

Flea that is a weird vibe. I feel like this is a Ask A Manager post where everyone wants an update. I hope for your sake that one of them comes to their senses and stops before it becomes a major thing.

As I was leaving today M was like "have fun on your playdate," .. but I did have fun. My crafty friend (whose name also starts with a M) has sooo much crafting stuff. Seriously I think she has as much stuff as the recraft store. We struggled to figure out one technique but had fun. Hit some thrift stores. Had lunch, and she jad several boxes of stuff to donate so she let me pull what I wanted.

And she plays DnD. Her husband was DMing but they lost their group. So they are thinking of starting up again.

Wait, the director and HR don't feel safe speaking to them?? That is some BS. What if it was actually a harassment situation or something? Good grief.

Very cool, askye!

No, I don’t feel safe going to the director or HR. I mean possibly I have trust issues, but I don’t know the HR person and I don’t trust the director.

Yeah, if either is tight with the boss that could backfire and make you the workplace atmosphere problem to be solved rather than the weirdly vibing boss-employee duo.

I’ve had work besties but I tell you what I never ate off the same plate with them at lunch.

I work in the family business with multiple relatives who babysat me when I was a child and I've never done that! Well, at work anyway; I don't specifically remember from the days when they babysat me...

I agree the eating off the same plate is way past "vibes" and into hostile environment territory

No, I don’t feel safe going to the director or HR.

Oh, that makes way more sense. What an awkward situation. Yikes.

Timelies all!

Last night Gary and I went to the Springsteen concert. Great concert, even though our seats were behind the stage. Got home late, partly because the Metro was single-tracking on the line we were on.

Yay to crafty new friends!

Boo to bosses giving off offputting inappropriate intimacy vibes!

Can I request tooth~ma? I went in this morning for a routine cleaning, only to discover that my lower right 6-year-molar, which has been my Problem Tooth for most of my life, either has tooth decay under the crown or is developing tooth resorption, which I didn't even know was a thing. (The tooth in question developed a really bad cavity when I was only 8, which I didn't mention to my parents until the pain became unbearable because the dentist they'd been taking me to had terrified me by covering my mouth and nose when I cried, or at least that's how I remember it. So at that point I got a new dentist, who did such a masterful job filling it that it lasted over 30 years despite the tooth being more filling than tooth. But eventually, about 10 years ago, my current dentist replaced the filling with a crown, and around 2019 I had to have a root canal. Which I thought meant there was nothing left to go wrong with it, but here we are.)

Anyway, my dentist can't tell whether it's decay or resorption from the x-rays, so she's going to remove the crown and take a look. If it's decay, they'll just clean it up and make a replacement crown. If resorption, the tooth is doomed, and I'm looking at either a bridge or an implant, probably the latter since we'd have to crown the teeth on either side to make a bridge, which we all agree would be a shame because they're beautifully healthy teeth. And all this starts tomorrow because they had a cancelation and could squeeze me in--otherwise it would probably have to wait till late April between my schedule and theirs, and I don't want to walk around with Schrodinger's Molar any longer than I have to.

I'm preparing myself for the resorption option, since this poor tooth is just so cursed. But I will take any ~ma on offer for a nice simple replacement crown.