It’s good if you to share your story, askye.

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so we had a major incident at work yesterday. Before we were open one of my coworkers, K, was walking to the employee entrance and saw a police car driving around the parking lot but didn't think much of it. She wasn't really paying attention, punched in her door code and then realized there was a stranger man right behind her, he had a hoodie with his hood up and a backpack. She tried to say good morning, thinking maybe he was with the cleaning crew but he pushed in front of her and she was feeling really uncomfortable.

She went to knock on Asset protection but they weren't there yet. So she found someone with a scanner, ahd them radio for managers. Who had to come up and figure out what was going on. She and another co worker went to check out side adn see if the cop was still there and there were like EIGHT cop cars.

She said about 12 cops went into the building including a k9 cop with the dog.

None of the managers called a code orange (I think AP is goign to change procedures for what happened) and the police ended up arresting the guy at gun point. He was wanted for car robbery and I guess maybe more with that kind of response.

I haven't looked at the news for more info.

And K kept working yesterday. I saw her and she was shaken but she said one of our co workers J (who I think can be kind of a bitch) said she shouldn't have let the guy in and gave her a hard time. Yesterday I saw the AP guy and he was talking to a team manager who asked him what happened and he didn't know the full story so I filled in what I knew. AP guy said K did the right thing.

So today I found K and let her know and she said that this morning it took her about 15 mins to feel ok getting out of her car in the parking lot. And she said J was still saying that she shouldn't have let the guy in. I told her if J said anything like that again to tell her "If you have an issue with how I handled the situation you need to talk to AP Manager or Store Manager" and K said well J wasn't saying that to her but telling people what happened when K could hear it. I told her- in that case you interrupt and tell J that that same line. And then repeat it. K had said he could have had a gun but even if he didn't there is a lot of stuff he could have done. He could have had a knife or there are concrete stairs near by he could have pushed her down the stairwell or whatever.

I also told her to talk to our new HR lead , who I just met and seemed really nice, about what J said and how she was reacting so that they would know and not to wait until she heard J talking again.

Well after an hour or so K comes by and told me thanks for reassuring her but she was feeling so bad because someone else had come up to her and said "oh you're the one who let the creep in" and I told her to go talk to HR right then. So she did.

She found me and said she had a long talk and HR Lead told her to go home for the day and that there would be conversations with several people about the incident and what they were saying.

K did tell me who made the comment about the creep. I told K that if I heard anyone talking bad about how she handled it I would tell them to go to take it HR or AP and also give them a piece of my mind.

Because fuck that shit. I have no fucks to give in this situation. I don't care if I get into verbal altercation with a coworker over them bad mouthing K over this.

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Good for you sticking up for your coworker!! And yeah, no way she is paid enough to bodily stop creepy criminal from entering the store!!

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What Cindy said.

Very much this. Thank you, askye. That was brave and you are very strong.

Gud, my heart breaks reading your post. The world is better with you in it. From everything you've said, I don't think your marriage is heathly. For anyone. But that is a choice you will have make. We can only offer perspectives and support.

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Because fuck that shit. I have no fucks to give in this situation.

You are absolutely doing the right thing. Retail is not law enforcement. But you are being appropriately supportive of K which is good and right.

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Oh my word, askye. Poor K. Good for you for going to bat for her, and what Cass said.

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askye, what you are with your co-worker solidarity at work and your radical honesty here is a big damn hero.

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askye, what you are with your co-worker solidarity at work and your radical honesty here is a big damn hero.

Copy that.

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askye, what you are with your co-worker solidarity at work and your radical honesty here is a big damn hero.

Couldn't say it better.

Awake at 4 AM, again. I really have to figure a way to sleep in more. Read for a couple hours till a decent 6 before making coffee. Now that it is light and the birds are noisy I'll sit out front and drink some of it. I switched to decaf a while back. Don't think I notice any difference. It is still my get awake and going thing.

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Thank you. It honestly doesn't feel that brave. It feels a little brave.

I shouldn't be on a screen. But I need some major workers comp ~ma. I have overdone things and I am pretty sure I gave myself a migraine. I talked to an intake person this morning because I had to talk to someone and she was shocked the nurse practitioner gave me "figure it out" as restrictions she emailed my case manager. I called just now and left a message.

I need to both get a neurology appointment but also I need to get another evaluation so I can stop overdoing it. I forgot my sunglasses, went Xmas shopping and then had some screen time which was too much. I was actually out less than what I worked Thurs or Sat but I get tired and my brain slows down and I have trouble figuring out oh I should stop

I'm not going into work today.

Friday it will have been a month since I hit my head.

I'm taking my time typing this. With screen brightness on lowest setting and taking breaks while I make a cold compress and then I'm going to go back and bury myself under the covers with the compress on my head and rest.

I did take Tylenol and it's working.

And if anyone has suggestions about workers comp. If you can email me or message on messenger or text I'd appreciate it.

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