That is the very definition of a very big decision. And very good options.

Dang, flea. Would you be able to use a Cape Cod job offer to negotiate better pay or benefits with your current job going full time? Or would the timing not work?

I started checking my work email and calendar to find I've been scheduled for a last-minute 8:30am meeting tomorrow when I'll be lucky if I get home by midnight tonight. I also discovered that I'm On Call tomorrow, when I'm already going to have hundreds if not thousands of emails to get through and have work meetings with lawyers after lunch. I need to pick up prescriptions that I'm completely out of and the pharmacy doesn't open until 9am. I need groceries. I need to not murder all the people who thought scheduling me for this on my first day back was a good idea.

Wow, flea, good luck! I am starting to look more seriously at library jobs in the Northeast (we have GOT to move out of Tennessee) and must admit I am rather envious of your Cape Cod job offer. And also very happy for you, of course! But I totally empathize with the difficulty of weighing the various pros and cons and having to take many other people's preferences into account as well. Hoping for the best outcome for you!

Flea that sounds like 2 good optoins but I would go for Cape Cod. i mean.. just because it's near the ocean.

Ok So I finally got out of the walk in place. Well I've been out since 230 but had to make phone calls etc.

Verdict is I need compete brainrest, which I haven't started yet since there is stuff to do. So no screens for a week (after I get off here and update on FB ) , no reading, nothing mentally strenuous. Maybe listening to light hearted audiobooks, coloring, or things that don't require too much concentration etc. And then revaluation next week. Maybe I could play an easy card game with M, like War or something. short walks if I feel like it and staying away from bright lights and drinking lots of water.

and lots of naps, short walks in the mornings or evening , that is what I was told to do. It's actually going to be hard to do this because I get bored easy. Maybe I'll figure out something else I can do that is fun but not a lot of mental work.

And one of my fave fanfic authors just released a new fic and now I'll have to wait.

See y'all in a week (hopefully)

Timelies all!

Good luck, flea.

I took today off to transport Mr. S to and from school. As we have no current nanny prospects, I may be doing this a fair amount in the near future.(The one potential candidate we had needed a certain number of hours, which we wouldn't be able to provide once Mr. S is doing a full day again)

Hang in there, askye! And don't read this for a while!!

But also people you’re not supposed to say “wow! That’s a decision all right!” You’re supposed to tell me what to do with my life.

Have a burrito! .... see, that is way easier.

If there were an obvious answer, you would know it already!

askye - this is sounding like a 21st century version of "The Yellow Wallpaper" ... which I consider pretty scary. Best wishes for getting screen privileges soon.

askye, I hope you read this next week and are feeling much, much better.

flea, that is awesome and also a lot. If I had to make the call (which would be so weird, right?), I'd pull for Cape Cod. The part about Cincinnati not being your spiritual jam struck me. I mean, and I also feel like Cape Cod is pretty likable for most others, too, so mr. flea would be down, right? Dillo and the logistics of selling a place and buying a new one are the biggies. Well, even really, more Dillo. You can do the other thing even though not super fun, necessarily. Can't weigh in on moving with kids, though. Don't have any!

(I can say that back in the day, my parents wouldn't even have considered thinking about how we would feel about moving as a factor for consideration. Like, it wouldn't even have occurred to them -- not that they were mean or inconsiderate of their children. It'd be like me weighing how my cats would feel about a move. They're my cats; they go where I go. I love them dearly, but, uh, no.)

So, in short, taking children's feelings into account when considering a move is a huge sea change in the world from when I was a youngin. I like it. Kids are people, too, and all. I wonder how I would deal, though. Probably more carefully than with the cats. I'm guessing.

Like, they might have acknowledged that it wouldn't be easy for us and felt a little bad for us, but... we moved.

I need to not murder all the people who thought scheduling me for this on my first day back was a good idea.

I'm not sure about that, those people seem like they need a little light murdering.

Complete Brain Rest sounds kind of awesome but I know it must be hard to actually do. Do you enjoy solitaire with actual cards, askye? Not thinky and keeps your hands busy. Coloring sounds like a good idea. Are any of your cats cuddly?

Re: moving with kids in high school - my dad was transferred back to California from Louisiana the summer before my senior year in high school. My parents decided he would come out here and the rest of us would stay there for a year so I could finish and my brother could ease into moving out and everything would be more gradual for everyone. If they had asked me, I wouldn't have suggested it, honestly, but they made that decision without input. Was tough on my mom, I think, being the sole parent most of the time, and my dad is the least happy to be alone of all of us so living by himself for the year was not great for him, either. But in the long run it all worked out fine.