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Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
I'm not feeling any sympathy for the wife here. Sorry, it seems a benefit to all if she stays away for a while. I certainly wouldn't cater to her sulking either. I work hard, but I know each and every day how much my efforts are appreciated. No way I would cater to someone who wasn't grateful, or worse, who was critical.
Just stating facts.
I wish I could kill myself and stop all the stress
Would you please, PLEASE see a therapist? If you are at the point of wishing you could end your life, you need professional help very, VERY badly.
And frankly, if she's not contributing to the family, I don't see why she gets any part of your salary either.
Thank you all for your kind words.
Gud, my heart goes out to you. At this point I am not at all sure how to convey support and love to you in a way that would be most meaningful to you. I wish I did, because you deserve to be lifted up by people who care about you. You deserve kindness. It is not selfish to want to relax after a busy day like you have had. You deserve rest and relaxation too.
Congrats, Scrappy!
I'm so sorry, WindSparrow. He was incredibly loved.
Gud, my heart goes out to you. At this point I am not at all sure how to convey support and love to you in a way that would be most meaningful to you. I wish I did, because you deserve to be lifted up by people who care about you. You deserve kindness. It is not selfish to want to relax after a busy day like you have had. You deserve rest and relaxation too.
Exactly what WindSparrow said. Exactly. Sending you love, and if it would help, sending your wife love, too, in the hope that she can find help for herself.
Also, I've been nonstop busy all day and I really just want to relax for a bit, which probably makes me as selfish as she says I am.
It absolutely positively does not.
Gud, there is no way on God's green earth that any rational person would call you selfish for wanting a little time to relax after a busy day. No fucking way.
If you really are feeling like you want to end your life, I echo what Steph said about a therapist, but in the moment, there are also a number of hotlines you can call. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline's number is 800-273-8255.
You are not selfish Gud. Your wife is acting selfish and cruel and has been for a long time. Your son seems to be especially suffering from her actions. Please, please talk to a therapist.
Gud, I don't usually comment on personal issues, but I want to urge you as strongly as I can to take a step back and look at this objectively. There is one person who has spent all day doing things for their family, and one who has cut themselves off and done nothing. The one who should recognize their selfishness and feel guilty is NOT the one who spent all day contributing.
The parts of our brain meant to feel empathy for others and the urge to help can be hijacked both by our own illnesses and by hostile outsiders to keep us from recognizing the real work we've done for others.